I hope this is the right forum to tell you about my problem. Sorry for my English, it's not my native language but I don't know where else to ask for advice.
I'll try to summarize the situation to hot bore you, some time ago we started a campaign with a couple of friends, plus a series of one shots in 5e, and lately I find myself not only not enjoying the games, but really wanting them to end at all times.
The problem is that we have a player, the best friend of the DM, who is completely egomaniacal, has ALL his characteristics always at the maximum, invents spell mechanics that don't make sense... (like using distance spells in meele, turning normal spells into area spells, all at level 2) Or adding modifiers where they don't go... Now, I understand that many people have problems with numbers and learning how spells or traits work, but every time someone wants to explain to them what they are doing wrong they get defensive.
This leads us to have a completely unbalanced party where he does almost everything. My problem wouldn't be so big if that ended up there, but during Roleplay, apart from the fact that obviously everything always works out for him because his characteristics are so high and his characters are super edgy, he always makes the decisions of the group on his own, killing npcs, getting into compromising situations, even literally taking the hands of our characters and putting them in situations we didn't want to be in. And if we decide not to accompany him, he's like 20 or 30 minutes alone doing nothing, talking to npcs, making a fuss, etc. I tried to talk to him this in character and out of character several times, but he always has excuses.
The truth is that this behavior has exhausted me and even made one of our teammates leave the game, but as the DM is his best friend he doesn't adjust at all even though I've talked to him many times... because "we play just for fun and you have to know how to enjoy the freedom of D&D". I agree with that phrase but I really think that if it's just an egocentric and arrogant player who's having fun I don't know if I want to be part of the campaign... although sadly I don't have another group to play with.
Have anyone of you (player or dm) worked out something like this? Do you think maybe i'm making a fuss from nothing?
Thanks! Sorry for the long post, i needed to take it all out
Yes, I had also situations with players and DMs I could not get along with, I left the round and found other players, or salvaged the players I liked from the fromer group for my new group.
D&D should be fun for everyone on the table, not only some. That is the social contract everyone should follow there.
If it is just the player, you can maybe go to the DM and get the DM to rein it in. But if the DM and player are together on this, and that's what it sounds like, there's nothing you can really do. If the DM is going to allow one player to have things the others can't, just because they're best friends, that is a terrible sign and you should not game with that DM.
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you should be having fun if not I would consider moving on. If talking to the DM or the player will not work. Talk to the other players in the group maybe you could start a new group, without the problem players. I have stayed in bad games before because I didn't think I could find better games, and I couldn't, but it is better to not play in my opinion then be in a game that sucks. good luck :)
you should be having fun if not I would consider moving on. If talking to the DM or the player will not work. Talk to the other players in the group maybe you could start a new group, without the problem players. I have stayed in bad games before because I didn't think I could find better games, and I couldn't, but it is better to not play in my opinion then be in a game that sucks. good luck :)
That's a good idea! i was a bit sad to leave the group 'cause they're one of my first D&D teams. I'm starting to think about amateur-DMing ooneshots for some friends that never played D&D, but I am convinced that you are going to love it and they can be a much more collaborative group! Thanks for your advice!
Help with one of my party members and my DM.
I hope this is the right forum to tell you about my problem. Sorry for my English, it's not my native language but I don't know where else to ask for advice.
I'll try to summarize the situation to hot bore you, some time ago we started a campaign with a couple of friends, plus a series of one shots in 5e, and lately I find myself not only not enjoying the games, but really wanting them to end at all times.
The problem is that we have a player, the best friend of the DM, who is completely egomaniacal, has ALL his characteristics always at the maximum, invents spell mechanics that don't make sense... (like using distance spells in meele, turning normal spells into area spells, all at level 2) Or adding modifiers where they don't go... Now, I understand that many people have problems with numbers and learning how spells or traits work, but every time someone wants to explain to them what they are doing wrong they get defensive.
This leads us to have a completely unbalanced party where he does almost everything. My problem wouldn't be so big if that ended up there, but during Roleplay, apart from the fact that obviously everything always works out for him because his characteristics are so high and his characters are super edgy, he always makes the decisions of the group on his own, killing npcs, getting into compromising situations, even literally taking the hands of our characters and putting them in situations we didn't want to be in. And if we decide not to accompany him, he's like 20 or 30 minutes alone doing nothing, talking to npcs, making a fuss, etc. I tried to talk to him this in character and out of character several times, but he always has excuses.
The truth is that this behavior has exhausted me and even made one of our teammates leave the game, but as the DM is his best friend he doesn't adjust at all even though I've talked to him many times... because "we play just for fun and you have to know how to enjoy the freedom of D&D". I agree with that phrase but I really think that if it's just an egocentric and arrogant player who's having fun I don't know if I want to be part of the campaign... although sadly I don't have another group to play with.
Have anyone of you (player or dm) worked out something like this? Do you think maybe i'm making a fuss from nothing?
Thanks! Sorry for the long post, i needed to take it all out
Yes, I had also situations with players and DMs I could not get along with, I left the round and found other players, or salvaged the players I liked from the fromer group for my new group.
D&D should be fun for everyone on the table, not only some. That is the social contract everyone should follow there.
Well, maybe the best thing to do is lave and wait for another party, yeah... at least for the good of my wellbeing lo
Thanks for your opinion! I'm gonna think about it
You need to find another game group.
If it is just the player, you can maybe go to the DM and get the DM to rein it in. But if the DM and player are together on this, and that's what it sounds like, there's nothing you can really do. If the DM is going to allow one player to have things the others can't, just because they're best friends, that is a terrible sign and you should not game with that DM.
WOTC lies. We know that WOTC lies. WOTC knows that we know that WOTC lies. We know that WOTC knows that we know that WOTC lies. And still they lie.
Because of the above (a paraphrase from Orwell) I no longer post to the forums -- PM me if you need help or anything.
you should be having fun if not I would consider moving on. If talking to the DM or the player will not work. Talk to the other players in the group maybe you could start a new group, without the problem players. I have stayed in bad games before because I didn't think I could find better games, and I couldn't, but it is better to not play in my opinion then be in a game that sucks. good luck :)
Not playing D&D is better than playing awful D&D.
WOTC lies. We know that WOTC lies. WOTC knows that we know that WOTC lies. We know that WOTC knows that we know that WOTC lies. And still they lie.
Because of the above (a paraphrase from Orwell) I no longer post to the forums -- PM me if you need help or anything.
You need to leave, it doesn't sound that this situation is going to change.
"Not playing D&D is better than playing awful D&D."
I thnik i'm gonna get a tatoo of that phrase. Thank you for your advice! I will definitely take it :)
That's a good idea! i was a bit sad to leave the group 'cause they're one of my first D&D teams. I'm starting to think about amateur-DMing ooneshots for some friends that never played D&D, but I am convinced that you are going to love it and they can be a much more collaborative group! Thanks for your advice!
clearly not, thanks for your opinion! :)