And — I’ll depart with this. I can barely talk one-on-one. Even here, I regularly rewrite my posts several dozen times. How do I just…talk to people? Just let go, stop worrying about what they’ll think?
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I was the shadow of the waxwing slain By the false azure in the windowpane; I was the smudge of ashen fluff--and I Lived on, flew on, in the reflected sky. extended sig
Hey, if nothing else, at least you know how you feel.
That's a start. And here's some simple advice: if they don't like you back? Not worth your time. Lots of people out there, if one doesn't like you you can find someone else.
Trust me, I know what this is like. Or... sort of, at least. I did? I dunno how to put it.
Yeah. I get the “I dunno” feeling about the advice I give as well.
What I’m wondering, though, is the following — again, I’m decently sure he likes me. Not 100%, but I do have a gut feeling. But I’m not worried about Step #1 — I’m just not good enough for him if he says yes, or…on a no, I’m not sure what I’d do. Not that I’d be broken up — I am very good at emotional endurance, but more that I’d lose a lot of friends and have to explain a lot to my parents.
I’m gonna start with my parents, I think. Thought about giving them a Christmas “gift” that just lets them know. I just need to feel like I have some support before I keep going with what I want.
Oh, when I said the 'I dunno' I more meant I'm currently in a kind of similar situation. I think I feel that way about someone, but I haven't experienced that emotion towards someone out of my family in YEARS. I'm trying to decide whether to talk to them about it, or feel out my emotions first - get them sorted, you know?
But yeah, do whatever feels right to you; It's your life.
Hey, if nothing else, at least you know how you feel.
That's a start. And here's some simple advice: if they don't like you back? Not worth your time. Lots of people out there, if one doesn't like you you can find someone else.
Trust me, I know what this is like. Or... sort of, at least. I did? I dunno how to put it.
Yeah. I get the “I dunno” feeling about the advice I give as well.
What I’m wondering, though, is the following — again, I’m decently sure he likes me. Not 100%, but I do have a gut feeling. But I’m not worried about Step #1 — I’m just not good enough for him if he says yes, or…on a no, I’m not sure what I’d do. Not that I’d be broken up — I am very good at emotional endurance, but more that I’d lose a lot of friends and have to explain a lot to my parents.
I’m gonna start with my parents, I think. Thought about giving them a Christmas “gift” that just lets them know. I just need to feel like I have some support before I keep going with what I want.
Oh, when I said the 'I dunno' I more meant I'm currently in a kind of similar situation. I think I feel that way about someone, but I haven't experienced that emotion towards someone out of my family in YEARS. I'm trying to decide whether to talk to them about it, or feel out my emotions first - get them sorted, you know?
But yeah, do whatever feels right to you; It's your life.
Why not go ahead and take a chance? What’s the worst that could happen?
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I was the shadow of the waxwing slain By the false azure in the windowpane; I was the smudge of ashen fluff--and I Lived on, flew on, in the reflected sky. extended sig
Oh, when I said the 'I dunno' I more meant I'm currently in a kind of similar situation. I think I feel that way about someone, but I haven't experienced that emotion towards someone out of my family in YEARS. I'm trying to decide whether to talk to them about it, or feel out my emotions first - get them sorted, you know?
But yeah, do whatever feels right to you; It's your life.
Why not go ahead and take a chance? What’s the worst that could happen?
Well, um... mainly it's because I don't know for sure - like, what if I tell them, and it turns out I just appreciate how kind they are to me without loving them? That could have... unhappy consequences.
Oh, when I said the 'I dunno' I more meant I'm currently in a kind of similar situation. I think I feel that way about someone, but I haven't experienced that emotion towards someone out of my family in YEARS. I'm trying to decide whether to talk to them about it, or feel out my emotions first - get them sorted, you know?
But yeah, do whatever feels right to you; It's your life.
Why not go ahead and take a chance? What’s the worst that could happen?
Well, um... mainly it's because I don't know for sure - like, what if I tell them, and it turns out I just appreciate how kind they are to me without loving them? That could have... unhappy consequences.
Then tell them how you feel. Maybe they don’t understand, but it’s better than suffering like that.
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I was the shadow of the waxwing slain By the false azure in the windowpane; I was the smudge of ashen fluff--and I Lived on, flew on, in the reflected sky. extended sig
Why not go ahead and take a chance? What’s the worst that could happen?
Well, um... mainly it's because I don't know for sure - like, what if I tell them, and it turns out I just appreciate how kind they are to me without loving them? That could have... unhappy consequences.
Then tell them how you feel. Maybe they don’t understand, but it’s better than suffering like that.
Errm... it's not quite suffering.
...any more than normal, at least.
It's more confusing, is all? Not knowing how you feel about people is... not relaxing.
Why not go ahead and take a chance? What’s the worst that could happen?
Well, um... mainly it's because I don't know for sure - like, what if I tell them, and it turns out I just appreciate how kind they are to me without loving them? That could have... unhappy consequences.
Then tell them how you feel. Maybe they don’t understand, but it’s better than suffering like that.
Errm... it's not quite suffering.
...any more than normal, at least.
It's more confusing, is all? Not knowing how you feel about people is... not relaxing.
Fair. It’s your life as well.
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I was the shadow of the waxwing slain By the false azure in the windowpane; I was the smudge of ashen fluff--and I Lived on, flew on, in the reflected sky. extended sig
I’m just a queer ahh autistic teen from the Midwest, but I found someone who loves me and who I love even though we both have problems. We both go through moments of self doubt, but we help each other. These are your lives, not mine, but I’d take the chance. It’s well worth it, at least for me
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Hey y’all, you can call me Sel, pronouns they/he. Some things about me, I like reading, writing, dnd, theater, art. I have an art doc and my yt channel linked below. Pms are always open if you need to talk. Love y’all <3
I’m just a queer ahh autistic teen from the Midwest, but I found someone who loves me and who I love even though we both have problems. We both go through moments of self doubt, but we help each other. These are your lives, not mine, but I’d take the chance. It’s well worth it, at least for me
Thanks, Sel.
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I was the shadow of the waxwing slain By the false azure in the windowpane; I was the smudge of ashen fluff--and I Lived on, flew on, in the reflected sky. extended sig
I’m just a queer ahh autistic teen from the Midwest, but I found someone who loves me and who I love even though we both have problems. We both go through moments of self doubt, but we help each other. These are your lives, not mine, but I’d take the chance. It’s well worth it, at least for me
That's awesome Sel!
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Hello! Call meTana orGato. My pronouns are She/Her. I am a teenager. I have Autism and anxiety. And, you would probably call me a trans something, I dunno. Pansexual pancake, and ace I will mother you if you are being stupid. ALL HAIL MERLIN! [roll]1d4[/roll] + [roll]1d4[/roll] + [roll]1d4[/roll] + [roll]1d4[/roll] + [roll]1d4[/roll] + [roll]1d4[/roll] = [roll][roll:-6]+[roll:-5]+[roll:-4]+[roll:-3]+[roll:-2]+[roll:-1][/roll] I have adopted Golden, Salem, Wes, Aspen, and (Secretly) Foalin.
I’m just a queer ahh autistic teen from the Midwest, but I found someone who loves me and who I love even though we both have problems. We both go through moments of self doubt, but we help each other. These are your lives, not mine, but I’d take the chance. It’s well worth it, at least for me
Well, the difference is you knew that's how you felt; I might just be thinking my feelings are something other than they are.
But that's good for you! Glad things worked out okay for you.
Golden, why don't you take some time and vent, so we can help you?
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Hello! Call meTana orGato. My pronouns are She/Her. I am a teenager. I have Autism and anxiety. And, you would probably call me a trans something, I dunno. Pansexual pancake, and ace I will mother you if you are being stupid. ALL HAIL MERLIN! [roll]1d4[/roll] + [roll]1d4[/roll] + [roll]1d4[/roll] + [roll]1d4[/roll] + [roll]1d4[/roll] + [roll]1d4[/roll] = [roll][roll:-6]+[roll:-5]+[roll:-4]+[roll:-3]+[roll:-2]+[roll:-1][/roll] I have adopted Golden, Salem, Wes, Aspen, and (Secretly) Foalin.
Golden, why don't you take some time and vent, so we can help you?
Hold on I got an idea
Golden check your PMs
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I was the shadow of the waxwing slain By the false azure in the windowpane; I was the smudge of ashen fluff--and I Lived on, flew on, in the reflected sky. extended sig
Golden, why don't you take some time and vent, so we can help you?
Hold on I got an idea
Golden check your PMs
If we are making a golden venting PM, please add me
I want to help my D&D child
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Hello! Call meTana orGato. My pronouns are She/Her. I am a teenager. I have Autism and anxiety. And, you would probably call me a trans something, I dunno. Pansexual pancake, and ace I will mother you if you are being stupid. ALL HAIL MERLIN! [roll]1d4[/roll] + [roll]1d4[/roll] + [roll]1d4[/roll] + [roll]1d4[/roll] + [roll]1d4[/roll] + [roll]1d4[/roll] = [roll][roll:-6]+[roll:-5]+[roll:-4]+[roll:-3]+[roll:-2]+[roll:-1][/roll] I have adopted Golden, Salem, Wes, Aspen, and (Secretly) Foalin.
Golden, why don't you take some time and vent, so we can help you?
Hold on I got an idea
Golden check your PMs
If we are making a golden venting PM, please add me
I want to help my D&D child
XD
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I was the shadow of the waxwing slain By the false azure in the windowpane; I was the smudge of ashen fluff--and I Lived on, flew on, in the reflected sky. extended sig
Golden, why don't you take some time and vent, so we can help you?
Hold on I got an idea
Golden check your PMs
If we are making a golden venting PM, please add me
I want to help my D&D child
XD
I do tho
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Hello! Call meTana orGato. My pronouns are She/Her. I am a teenager. I have Autism and anxiety. And, you would probably call me a trans something, I dunno. Pansexual pancake, and ace I will mother you if you are being stupid. ALL HAIL MERLIN! [roll]1d4[/roll] + [roll]1d4[/roll] + [roll]1d4[/roll] + [roll]1d4[/roll] + [roll]1d4[/roll] + [roll]1d4[/roll] = [roll][roll:-6]+[roll:-5]+[roll:-4]+[roll:-3]+[roll:-2]+[roll:-1][/roll] I have adopted Golden, Salem, Wes, Aspen, and (Secretly) Foalin.
Golden, why don't you take some time and vent, so we can help you?
Hold on I got an idea
Golden check your PMs
If we are making a golden venting PM, please add me
I want to help my D&D child
XD
I do tho
Yeah
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I was the shadow of the waxwing slain By the false azure in the windowpane; I was the smudge of ashen fluff--and I Lived on, flew on, in the reflected sky. extended sig
Golden, why don't you take some time and vent, so we can help you?
Hold on I got an idea
Golden check your PMs
If we are making a golden venting PM, please add me
I want to help my D&D child
XD
I do tho
Yeah
WAIT A MOMENT
Oh, this actually explains a few things.
What does?
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Hello! Call meTana orGato. My pronouns are She/Her. I am a teenager. I have Autism and anxiety. And, you would probably call me a trans something, I dunno. Pansexual pancake, and ace I will mother you if you are being stupid. ALL HAIL MERLIN! [roll]1d4[/roll] + [roll]1d4[/roll] + [roll]1d4[/roll] + [roll]1d4[/roll] + [roll]1d4[/roll] + [roll]1d4[/roll] = [roll][roll:-6]+[roll:-5]+[roll:-4]+[roll:-3]+[roll:-2]+[roll:-1][/roll] I have adopted Golden, Salem, Wes, Aspen, and (Secretly) Foalin.
And — I’ll depart with this. I can barely talk one-on-one. Even here, I regularly rewrite my posts several dozen times. How do I just…talk to people? Just let go, stop worrying about what they’ll think?
I was the shadow of the waxwing slain
By the false azure in the windowpane;
I was the smudge of ashen fluff--and I
Lived on, flew on, in the reflected sky.
extended sig
Oh, when I said the 'I dunno' I more meant I'm currently in a kind of similar situation. I think I feel that way about someone, but I haven't experienced that emotion towards someone out of my family in YEARS. I'm trying to decide whether to talk to them about it, or feel out my emotions first - get them sorted, you know?
But yeah, do whatever feels right to you; It's your life.
Here's a link to my Discord thing: The Dorky Dragon Tavern
"Avoid roasted cabbage, do not eat earwax, and look on the bright side of life." -Angela
this is Gato's way. [roll]1d4[/roll] + [roll]1d4[/roll] + [roll]1d4[/roll] + [roll]1d4[/roll] + [roll]1d4[/roll] + [roll]1d4[/roll] = [roll][roll:-6]+[roll:-5]+[roll:-4]+[roll:-3]+[roll:-2]+[roll:-1][/roll]
Hello, all! Foalin is my familiar, after a little conversation...
extended sig(click it): :3
Why not go ahead and take a chance? What’s the worst that could happen?
I was the shadow of the waxwing slain
By the false azure in the windowpane;
I was the smudge of ashen fluff--and I
Lived on, flew on, in the reflected sky.
extended sig
Well, um... mainly it's because I don't know for sure - like, what if I tell them, and it turns out I just appreciate how kind they are to me without loving them? That could have... unhappy consequences.
Here's a link to my Discord thing: The Dorky Dragon Tavern
"Avoid roasted cabbage, do not eat earwax, and look on the bright side of life." -Angela
this is Gato's way. [roll]1d4[/roll] + [roll]1d4[/roll] + [roll]1d4[/roll] + [roll]1d4[/roll] + [roll]1d4[/roll] + [roll]1d4[/roll] = [roll][roll:-6]+[roll:-5]+[roll:-4]+[roll:-3]+[roll:-2]+[roll:-1][/roll]
Hello, all! Foalin is my familiar, after a little conversation...
extended sig(click it): :3
Then tell them how you feel. Maybe they don’t understand, but it’s better than suffering like that.
I was the shadow of the waxwing slain
By the false azure in the windowpane;
I was the smudge of ashen fluff--and I
Lived on, flew on, in the reflected sky.
extended sig
Errm... it's not quite suffering.
...any more than normal, at least.
It's more confusing, is all? Not knowing how you feel about people is... not relaxing.
Here's a link to my Discord thing: The Dorky Dragon Tavern
"Avoid roasted cabbage, do not eat earwax, and look on the bright side of life." -Angela
this is Gato's way. [roll]1d4[/roll] + [roll]1d4[/roll] + [roll]1d4[/roll] + [roll]1d4[/roll] + [roll]1d4[/roll] + [roll]1d4[/roll] = [roll][roll:-6]+[roll:-5]+[roll:-4]+[roll:-3]+[roll:-2]+[roll:-1][/roll]
Hello, all! Foalin is my familiar, after a little conversation...
extended sig(click it): :3
Fair. It’s your life as well.
I was the shadow of the waxwing slain
By the false azure in the windowpane;
I was the smudge of ashen fluff--and I
Lived on, flew on, in the reflected sky.
extended sig
I’m just a queer ahh autistic teen from the Midwest, but I found someone who loves me and who I love even though we both have problems. We both go through moments of self doubt, but we help each other. These are your lives, not mine, but I’d take the chance. It’s well worth it, at least for me
Hey y’all, you can call me Sel, pronouns they/he. Some things about me, I like reading, writing, dnd, theater, art. I have an art doc and my yt channel linked below. Pms are always open if you need to talk. Love y’all <3
Is art
@Irunwithskissors
(Both are links, please click them…)
Thanks, Sel.
I was the shadow of the waxwing slain
By the false azure in the windowpane;
I was the smudge of ashen fluff--and I
Lived on, flew on, in the reflected sky.
extended sig
That's awesome Sel!
Hello! Call me Tana or Gato.
My pronouns are She/Her.
I am a teenager. I have Autism and anxiety. And, you would probably call me a trans something, I dunno. Pansexual pancake, and ace
I will mother you if you are being stupid.
ALL HAIL MERLIN! [roll]1d4[/roll] + [roll]1d4[/roll] + [roll]1d4[/roll] + [roll]1d4[/roll] + [roll]1d4[/roll] + [roll]1d4[/roll] = [roll][roll:-6]+[roll:-5]+[roll:-4]+[roll:-3]+[roll:-2]+[roll:-1][/roll]
I have adopted Golden, Salem, Wes, Aspen, and (Secretly) Foalin.
Well, the difference is you knew that's how you felt; I might just be thinking my feelings are something other than they are.
But that's good for you! Glad things worked out okay for you.
Here's a link to my Discord thing: The Dorky Dragon Tavern
"Avoid roasted cabbage, do not eat earwax, and look on the bright side of life." -Angela
this is Gato's way. [roll]1d4[/roll] + [roll]1d4[/roll] + [roll]1d4[/roll] + [roll]1d4[/roll] + [roll]1d4[/roll] + [roll]1d4[/roll] = [roll][roll:-6]+[roll:-5]+[roll:-4]+[roll:-3]+[roll:-2]+[roll:-1][/roll]
Hello, all! Foalin is my familiar, after a little conversation...
extended sig(click it): :3
Golden, why don't you take some time and vent, so we can help you?
Hello! Call me Tana or Gato.
My pronouns are She/Her.
I am a teenager. I have Autism and anxiety. And, you would probably call me a trans something, I dunno. Pansexual pancake, and ace
I will mother you if you are being stupid.
ALL HAIL MERLIN! [roll]1d4[/roll] + [roll]1d4[/roll] + [roll]1d4[/roll] + [roll]1d4[/roll] + [roll]1d4[/roll] + [roll]1d4[/roll] = [roll][roll:-6]+[roll:-5]+[roll:-4]+[roll:-3]+[roll:-2]+[roll:-1][/roll]
I have adopted Golden, Salem, Wes, Aspen, and (Secretly) Foalin.
Hold on I got an idea
Golden check your PMs
I was the shadow of the waxwing slain
By the false azure in the windowpane;
I was the smudge of ashen fluff--and I
Lived on, flew on, in the reflected sky.
extended sig
If we are making a golden venting PM, please add me
I want to help my D&D child
Hello! Call me Tana or Gato.
My pronouns are She/Her.
I am a teenager. I have Autism and anxiety. And, you would probably call me a trans something, I dunno. Pansexual pancake, and ace
I will mother you if you are being stupid.
ALL HAIL MERLIN! [roll]1d4[/roll] + [roll]1d4[/roll] + [roll]1d4[/roll] + [roll]1d4[/roll] + [roll]1d4[/roll] + [roll]1d4[/roll] = [roll][roll:-6]+[roll:-5]+[roll:-4]+[roll:-3]+[roll:-2]+[roll:-1][/roll]
I have adopted Golden, Salem, Wes, Aspen, and (Secretly) Foalin.
XD
I was the shadow of the waxwing slain
By the false azure in the windowpane;
I was the smudge of ashen fluff--and I
Lived on, flew on, in the reflected sky.
extended sig
I do tho
Hello! Call me Tana or Gato.
My pronouns are She/Her.
I am a teenager. I have Autism and anxiety. And, you would probably call me a trans something, I dunno. Pansexual pancake, and ace
I will mother you if you are being stupid.
ALL HAIL MERLIN! [roll]1d4[/roll] + [roll]1d4[/roll] + [roll]1d4[/roll] + [roll]1d4[/roll] + [roll]1d4[/roll] + [roll]1d4[/roll] = [roll][roll:-6]+[roll:-5]+[roll:-4]+[roll:-3]+[roll:-2]+[roll:-1][/roll]
I have adopted Golden, Salem, Wes, Aspen, and (Secretly) Foalin.
Yeah
I was the shadow of the waxwing slain
By the false azure in the windowpane;
I was the smudge of ashen fluff--and I
Lived on, flew on, in the reflected sky.
extended sig
WAIT A MOMENT
Oh, this actually explains a few things.
Here's a link to my Discord thing: The Dorky Dragon Tavern
"Avoid roasted cabbage, do not eat earwax, and look on the bright side of life." -Angela
this is Gato's way. [roll]1d4[/roll] + [roll]1d4[/roll] + [roll]1d4[/roll] + [roll]1d4[/roll] + [roll]1d4[/roll] + [roll]1d4[/roll] = [roll][roll:-6]+[roll:-5]+[roll:-4]+[roll:-3]+[roll:-2]+[roll:-1][/roll]
Hello, all! Foalin is my familiar, after a little conversation...
extended sig(click it): :3
What does?
Hello! Call me Tana or Gato.
My pronouns are She/Her.
I am a teenager. I have Autism and anxiety. And, you would probably call me a trans something, I dunno. Pansexual pancake, and ace
I will mother you if you are being stupid.
ALL HAIL MERLIN! [roll]1d4[/roll] + [roll]1d4[/roll] + [roll]1d4[/roll] + [roll]1d4[/roll] + [roll]1d4[/roll] + [roll]1d4[/roll] = [roll][roll:-6]+[roll:-5]+[roll:-4]+[roll:-3]+[roll:-2]+[roll:-1][/roll]
I have adopted Golden, Salem, Wes, Aspen, and (Secretly) Foalin.
I was wondering what inspired the creation of that PM.
Here's a link to my Discord thing: The Dorky Dragon Tavern
"Avoid roasted cabbage, do not eat earwax, and look on the bright side of life." -Angela
this is Gato's way. [roll]1d4[/roll] + [roll]1d4[/roll] + [roll]1d4[/roll] + [roll]1d4[/roll] + [roll]1d4[/roll] + [roll]1d4[/roll] = [roll][roll:-6]+[roll:-5]+[roll:-4]+[roll:-3]+[roll:-2]+[roll:-1][/roll]
Hello, all! Foalin is my familiar, after a little conversation...
extended sig(click it): :3