I was wondering how diverse your tables are in regards to your players? I know that is a big thing in D&D right now and I wonder how many people find themselves playing with people of different racial backgrounds or gender.
I play a wide range of characters both as a player and dm.Why?because I think it's cool to look at the world different.I have played characters who occupy a huge section of lgbtq+ spectrum,of a variety of races,ages and backgrounds.
I play a wide range of characters both as a player and dm.Why?because I think it's cool to look at the world different.I have played characters who occupy a huge section of lgbtq+ spectrum,of a variety of races,ages and backgrounds.
I meant more the players in real life rather than the characters in the games.
I play a wide range of characters both as a player and dm.Why?because I think it's cool to look at the world different.I have played characters who occupy a huge section of lgbtq+ spectrum,of a variety of races,ages and backgrounds.
I meant more the players in real life rather than the characters in the games.
It's a big white sausage fest right now, I have to admit. I've played with 3 other ethnicities (and 7ish different nationalities) so far though, about 1 in 10 (maybe a little more) people I've played with were female, and one was transgender. However I've got about 3 decades under my belt, all of the above was spread out over a lot of groups.
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This is something I think about a lot. I started playing and subsequently DMing about three years ago and I started with all of my high school friends (since we were all big nerds and grew up playing MMOs with one another). So my tables started off as, and surprisingly going forward have always been majority black and poc.
It wasn’t until like maybe a year ago when I started hopping in to watch the various games on the twitch dnd directory did I remember that yeah dnd is still something that’s dominated by a certain demographic
I am, myself, a gender-nonconforming/genderfluid/gender-confused (whatever the official descriptor is for "is biologically male, does not like being biologically male, would much prefer to go the other way, but cannot really do anything about it so blegh") individual.
The DM for a game I've recently begun playing in with a new group is strongly non-binary.
One of my longest-running gaming buddies, stretching back over a decade and well before we started playing D&D, is black.
The DM for our group's longest-running campaign is Redneck. Which he has been known to joke as being a different subspecies of humanity altogether, possibly descended from crocodiles instead of monkeys.
Our other semi-regular DM is a highly trained professional chef.
We've even gone so far as to play with gurlz. More than one, at once. Even if you don't count me.
Despite what some folks like to espouse, the hobby really is as diverse and broad as Wizards is telling people it is.
Everyone I currently play with are white, though the number of people of color in this back water town is extremely low. We are fairly diverse otherwise. In the group I DM for, which has a total of 7 people, there is only 1 cis male, the rest of us fall across the gender and sexual spectrum. In this same group we have physical disabilities and a range of mental health conditions as well.
I generally have no idea what the ethnicities or genders are of my fellow players, and they generally don't know mine. I would express strong disapproval if any of them started acting like it mattered.
So I'm Asian, a cis man, and gay. My group consists of 1 enby, 3 women, and 8 men. Of our sexualities that I am fairly certain of there is 1 bi mono person, 1 bi poly person, 2 gay mono people, 1 straight poly person, and I think the rest are straight mono. Of our ethnic backgrounds there are two Asians, two biracial (black and white), and the rest are white. Our DM is a white, straight, cis, man.
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Canto alla vita alla sua bellezza ad ogni sua ferita ogni sua carezza!
I sing to life and to its tragic beauty To pain and to strife, but all that dances through me The rise and the fall, I've lived through it all!
I was wondering how diverse your tables are in regards to your players? I know that is a big thing in D&D right now and I wonder how many people find themselves playing with people of different racial backgrounds or gender.
I play in real life with some friends that I met through work and D&D. We're all caucasian and living in Scandinavia. 3 guys 2 girls. All cisgendered and straight. 1 couple, the sister of the wife in the couple and the sister's boyfriend, then I and my dude. My GF doesn't play with us.
I personally wouldn't play with an all male group.
This is something I think about a lot. I started playing and subsequently DMing about three years ago and I started with all of my high school friends (since we were all big nerds and grew up playing MMOs with one another). So my tables started off as, and surprisingly going forward have always been majority black and poc.
It wasn’t until like maybe a year ago when I started hopping in to watch the various games on the twitch dnd directory did I remember that yeah dnd is still something that’s dominated by a certain demographic
I generally have no idea what the ethnicities or genders are of my fellow players, and they generally don't know mine. I would express strong disapproval if any of them started acting like it mattered.
"I don't know, I don't care, and furthermore I have a problem with anyone who does care" seems like a counterproductive answer to the particular question posed in this thread.
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Canto alla vita alla sua bellezza ad ogni sua ferita ogni sua carezza!
I sing to life and to its tragic beauty To pain and to strife, but all that dances through me The rise and the fall, I've lived through it all!
I generally have no idea what the ethnicities or genders are of my fellow players, and they generally don't know mine. I would express strong disapproval if any of them started acting like it mattered.
"I don't know, I don't care, and furthermore I have a problem with anyone who does care" seems like a counterproductive answer to the particular question posed in this thread.
I was interpreting OP as being interested in the attitudes people take towards this topic; I apologize if I misinterpreted.
As a note, simply to expand awareness: an issue both Ophidian and I have run into on many occasions is the "Over There" Problem. I.e. "I don't care if gay people are gay or black people are black or trans people are trans, or any of that stuff. So long as they do it somewhere I don't have to watch them do it, think about them doing it, or in any way acknowledge their existence. Y'all are free to be queer. Just...over there."
I interpreted your post more as "I would object if people started discriminating against these things" and let it go, but the "Over There" problem is in many ways just as bad as overt hostility. People don't particularly want to keep their lives bottled up and compartmented. Ophidian would like to be able to tell married-life stories about his husband and himself the same way any cis couple does, without censure because he happens to be gay. People whose ethnicities are visually obvious would like permission to still be those ethnicities 'Right Here' instead of 'Over There'. Most of the folks who would take exception to your stance are the ones who don't particularly feel like their gender, sexuality, or ethnicity should be some big dark terrible secret they have to maintain or risk explusion. Nor are many folks really okay with "yeah, none of that matters so blegh".
Trust me - the difference between acknowledging and accepting someone's sexuality, gender identity, or ethnicity for what it is and accepting someone in spite of those things, i.e. "I don't really care about that part of you so let's just not talk about it or bring it up, ever" is vast almost beyond knowing.
So yeah. Hopefully that helps expand awareness. Good luck, happy gaming, and if anyone happens to have any spare femininity laying around they're not using, feel free to DM it to me. I've got a great home just waiting for it.
I'm not 100% comfortable talking about my friends in a public forum without their knowledge, but I will say that at a table of six people, aside from one token cishet white dude, we have a very broad range of experiences, and I think our variety of perspectives makes the game much more interesting and rewarding.
I (white, cis, male) as the DM have three males and two females in our group. One of the males is an Asian American and the rest are white. To be honest, if more people in my area I knew played D&D, I would certainly love to invite them to my personal games. It's just that I don't have a very diverse local gaming area to go to (really REALLY limited) and most POC or LGBTQIA individuals I personally know, I haven't been able to get to play D&D yet. I think the only other POC I am friends with that PLAYS, often can't because of familial obligations.
I play with literally the only people around me that I know will play.
Of my seven players across two groups, everyone is white, most are straight guys, one is a girl, and one is gay. They’re all friends of mine, in fact one is my brother and two are my roommates, so it’s more a reflection of where I live than anything else.
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It makes me really happy that the community here is so very diverse. You're all awesome. 💗
As for me, it varies - I'm lucky enough to have many friends and colleagues to play D&D (and other TTRPG) with.
I'm a caucasian panromantic asexual trans woman and I am 100% ok with saying that publicly. I won't talk about the identities of my friends on here, but they're a reasonably diverse bunch.
As for finding games, if anything I have more choice of games these days than ever before.
I'm an outlier though - I am lucky and I know it. My experience is not the same as that of others. There are many people who are ostracized based on race, gender identity, sexuality or an intersectional mix of those. I urge everyone to be tolerant of those who are different to themselves and welcome people to play D&D with you - you might learn something. 😊
I've got one table where literally everyone is neurodiverse and some flavor of queer, including ace, and several gender diverse folks, with one person also being Jewish but everyone else being white. My other table includes a Black woman, a couple gender diverse folks, and several queer people, and I don't think everyone's neurotypical -- I know less about the overlap/details there because the subject has come up less frequently.
I was wondering how diverse your tables are in regards to your players? I know that is a big thing in D&D right now and I wonder how many people find themselves playing with people of different racial backgrounds or gender.
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I play a wide range of characters both as a player and dm.Why?because I think it's cool to look at the world different.I have played characters who occupy a huge section of lgbtq+ spectrum,of a variety of races,ages and backgrounds.
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I meant more the players in real life rather than the characters in the games.
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Same to say with the players.
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It's a big white sausage fest right now, I have to admit. I've played with 3 other ethnicities (and 7ish different nationalities) so far though, about 1 in 10 (maybe a little more) people I've played with were female, and one was transgender. However I've got about 3 decades under my belt, all of the above was spread out over a lot of groups.
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This is something I think about a lot. I started playing and subsequently DMing about three years ago and I started with all of my high school friends (since we were all big nerds and grew up playing MMOs with one another). So my tables started off as, and surprisingly going forward have always been majority black and poc.
It wasn’t until like maybe a year ago when I started hopping in to watch the various games on the twitch dnd directory did I remember that yeah dnd is still something that’s dominated by a certain demographic
I am, myself, a gender-nonconforming/genderfluid/gender-confused (whatever the official descriptor is for "is biologically male, does not like being biologically male, would much prefer to go the other way, but cannot really do anything about it so blegh") individual.
The DM for a game I've recently begun playing in with a new group is strongly non-binary.
One of my longest-running gaming buddies, stretching back over a decade and well before we started playing D&D, is black.
The DM for our group's longest-running campaign is Redneck. Which he has been known to joke as being a different subspecies of humanity altogether, possibly descended from crocodiles instead of monkeys.
Our other semi-regular DM is a highly trained professional chef.
We've even gone so far as to play with gurlz. More than one, at once. Even if you don't count me.
Despite what some folks like to espouse, the hobby really is as diverse and broad as Wizards is telling people it is.
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Everyone I currently play with are white, though the number of people of color in this back water town is extremely low. We are fairly diverse otherwise. In the group I DM for, which has a total of 7 people, there is only 1 cis male, the rest of us fall across the gender and sexual spectrum. In this same group we have physical disabilities and a range of mental health conditions as well.
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I generally have no idea what the ethnicities or genders are of my fellow players, and they generally don't know mine. I would express strong disapproval if any of them started acting like it mattered.
So I'm Asian, a cis man, and gay. My group consists of 1 enby, 3 women, and 8 men. Of our sexualities that I am fairly certain of there is 1 bi mono person, 1 bi poly person, 2 gay mono people, 1 straight poly person, and I think the rest are straight mono. Of our ethnic backgrounds there are two Asians, two biracial (black and white), and the rest are white. Our DM is a white, straight, cis, man.
Canto alla vita
alla sua bellezza
ad ogni sua ferita
ogni sua carezza!
I sing to life and to its tragic beauty
To pain and to strife, but all that dances through me
The rise and the fall, I've lived through it all!
I play in real life with some friends that I met through work and D&D. We're all caucasian and living in Scandinavia. 3 guys 2 girls. All cisgendered and straight. 1 couple, the sister of the wife in the couple and the sister's boyfriend, then I and my dude. My GF doesn't play with us.
I personally wouldn't play with an all male group.
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"I don't know, I don't care, and furthermore I have a problem with anyone who does care" seems like a counterproductive answer to the particular question posed in this thread.
Canto alla vita
alla sua bellezza
ad ogni sua ferita
ogni sua carezza!
I sing to life and to its tragic beauty
To pain and to strife, but all that dances through me
The rise and the fall, I've lived through it all!
I was interpreting OP as being interested in the attitudes people take towards this topic; I apologize if I misinterpreted.
As a note, simply to expand awareness: an issue both Ophidian and I have run into on many occasions is the "Over There" Problem. I.e. "I don't care if gay people are gay or black people are black or trans people are trans, or any of that stuff. So long as they do it somewhere I don't have to watch them do it, think about them doing it, or in any way acknowledge their existence. Y'all are free to be queer. Just...over there."
I interpreted your post more as "I would object if people started discriminating against these things" and let it go, but the "Over There" problem is in many ways just as bad as overt hostility. People don't particularly want to keep their lives bottled up and compartmented. Ophidian would like to be able to tell married-life stories about his husband and himself the same way any cis couple does, without censure because he happens to be gay. People whose ethnicities are visually obvious would like permission to still be those ethnicities 'Right Here' instead of 'Over There'. Most of the folks who would take exception to your stance are the ones who don't particularly feel like their gender, sexuality, or ethnicity should be some big dark terrible secret they have to maintain or risk explusion. Nor are many folks really okay with "yeah, none of that matters so blegh".
Trust me - the difference between acknowledging and accepting someone's sexuality, gender identity, or ethnicity for what it is and accepting someone in spite of those things, i.e. "I don't really care about that part of you so let's just not talk about it or bring it up, ever" is vast almost beyond knowing.
So yeah. Hopefully that helps expand awareness. Good luck, happy gaming, and if anyone happens to have any spare femininity laying around they're not using, feel free to DM it to me. I've got a great home just waiting for it.
Please do not contact or message me.
I'm not 100% comfortable talking about my friends in a public forum without their knowledge, but I will say that at a table of six people, aside from one token cishet white dude, we have a very broad range of experiences, and I think our variety of perspectives makes the game much more interesting and rewarding.
I (white, cis, male) as the DM have three males and two females in our group. One of the males is an Asian American and the rest are white. To be honest, if more people in my area I knew played D&D, I would certainly love to invite them to my personal games. It's just that I don't have a very diverse local gaming area to go to (really REALLY limited) and most POC or LGBTQIA individuals I personally know, I haven't been able to get to play D&D yet. I think the only other POC I am friends with that PLAYS, often can't because of familial obligations.
I play with literally the only people around me that I know will play.
Of my seven players across two groups, everyone is white, most are straight guys, one is a girl, and one is gay. They’re all friends of mine, in fact one is my brother and two are my roommates, so it’s more a reflection of where I live than anything else.
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Please be careful talking about your identity openly on these forums though - be aware that, whilst we moderate this community and will not tolerate hateful attitudes, anything written here is public.
It makes me really happy that the community here is so very diverse. You're all awesome. 💗
As for me, it varies - I'm lucky enough to have many friends and colleagues to play D&D (and other TTRPG) with.
I'm a caucasian panromantic asexual trans woman and I am 100% ok with saying that publicly. I won't talk about the identities of my friends on here, but they're a reasonably diverse bunch.
As for finding games, if anything I have more choice of games these days than ever before.
I'm an outlier though - I am lucky and I know it. My experience is not the same as that of others. There are many people who are ostracized based on race, gender identity, sexuality or an intersectional mix of those. I urge everyone to be tolerant of those who are different to themselves and welcome people to play D&D with you - you might learn something. 😊
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I've got one table where literally everyone is neurodiverse and some flavor of queer, including ace, and several gender diverse folks, with one person also being Jewish but everyone else being white. My other table includes a Black woman, a couple gender diverse folks, and several queer people, and I don't think everyone's neurotypical -- I know less about the overlap/details there because the subject has come up less frequently.
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