It appears that I have unintentionally created problems here. I am deeply sorry.
Gato, I’m not trying to assume anything and I’m not entirely sure what you are trying to get at. This is what I meant earlier by people underestimating the impact of making decisions purely based off emotions.
When I was talking about relationships, that was an example for reference. It was nothing more personal than a tree casting a shadow over a rock because the sun is in a different position in the sky.
Please understand that I am not new here, either. I believe I may know you as cynophobia. Which is ironic given that you love dogs. I am VTL. This is a new account because my old email is in the process of being replaced by this new one.
I will always love and support you. (And if this isn’t Cyno, I apologize for the awkward apology and explanation. This is supposed to be a griping thread, or so I thought. Why can’t a man just gripe in peace lol)
Yes, a sense of personality is easy. But people have so much more depth than that; for instance, do you know WHY I'm like that? It could be I was born that way; it could be that I was told that's how I should act; it could even be guilt about me doing poor things in the past and so I'm making up for it. Everyone has reasons for what they do; people being jerks isn't okay, period, but just criticizing them feels different if they're just a butthead and if they're lashing out due to their mother dying or something.
And I never judge people based on appearance, just so we're clear.
But you can learn that online too. And in person, people can lie. Feels like you’re saying we shouldn’t criticize in the first place, and sometimes constructive criticism is helpful.
...people can lie online too? And what other people call constructive criticism I tend to call 'feedback'. I mean criticism as in judging others for their actions in an offensive or provocative manner.
I think most people don’t understand and underestimate the effects of mob mentality and basing serious decisions purely off of emotion rather than from a more logical and rational perspective.
Just to clarify for my brand new critics, temperance is always to be utilized. For example, it would be a sad world if we didn’t seek out partners because we liked them or not. But chasing after someone purely off of our more animalistic urges doesn’t always lead to positive places.
Taking into account things like compatibility is very rational. “I like you enough the think about how well we could do together,” is very mature and respectable in my opinion.
So your going deny my right's to be aromantic? beacuse thats what im seeing
What? Is this like a joke or something? I’m being serious, because I don’t understand how that could be targeting anyone in particular.
Regardless of whatever your sexual orientation is, I think thoughtfully thinking about who you want to be with is rational and emotional. It would require you to have an emotional investment in said person and have the maturity to determine if a relationship with said person would be toxic/unhealthy or productive/supportive.
For example, I have low self-esteem. So it is a tendency of mine to think that almost everyone is out of my league. Is that true? Probably, probably not. Is it rational? Maybe, maybe not. But is it miserable? Yes.
So, would it be better to lean into my emotional side of self deprecation and be sad and lonely forever, or would it be better to stop the pity parties and learn to love myself so I can better appreciate and love the people around me? (This is rhetorical, by the way).
What? may I ask, do you know what Aromantic means?
Yes, actually. Can you explain how what I wrote is anti-aromantic?
GUYS.
STOP.
I apologize if my tone seems antagonistic. I am genuinely curious as to how I could have meant any harm to a group of people I wasn’t trying to target in anyway. If that seems ironic or sarcastic, it isn’t. I want to learn and improve in any way I can.
I'm not going to explain to either of you --- I'm simply trying to keep this from getting worse. I didn't mean anything towards either of you, I just am recognizing the need for someone to step in here.
I have sent a report to notify the mods that a fight may break out here.
Thanks, Moon.
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And Gato, they weren't necessarily saying that you had to find a partner, although you're aro. "It would be a sad world if we didn't seek out partners because we liked them or not" is saying that only for people who seek out partners.
I know
I overacted, and I know that
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Hello! Call meTana. My pronouns are She/Her. I am a teenager. I have Autism and ADHD. And, you would probably call me trans femme, Pansexual pancake, and ace I will mother you if you are being stupid. ALL HAIL MERLIN! [roll]1d4[/roll] + [roll]1d4[/roll] + [roll]1d4[/roll] + [roll]1d4[/roll] + [roll]1d4[/roll] + [roll]1d4[/roll] = [roll][roll:-6]+[roll:-5]+[roll:-4]+[roll:-3]+[roll:-2]+[roll:-1][/roll] I have adopted Golden, Salem, Wes, Aspen, and Foalin.
Hello! Call meTana. My pronouns are She/Her. I am a teenager. I have Autism and ADHD. And, you would probably call me trans femme, Pansexual pancake, and ace I will mother you if you are being stupid. ALL HAIL MERLIN! [roll]1d4[/roll] + [roll]1d4[/roll] + [roll]1d4[/roll] + [roll]1d4[/roll] + [roll]1d4[/roll] + [roll]1d4[/roll] = [roll][roll:-6]+[roll:-5]+[roll:-4]+[roll:-3]+[roll:-2]+[roll:-1][/roll] I have adopted Golden, Salem, Wes, Aspen, and Foalin.
It seems wrong to criticize people I've literally never met IRL, though.
so you'd rather let an online problem fester instead of addressing it?
I'd rather avoid there being a problem. And how is me criticizing someone going to fix anything?
If you tell someone you think they're doing smth wrong, chances are they will apologize and try to fix it. Just need to be careful to not turn that criticism into an attack.
...I'd call that providing feedback. I view criticism as judging people. I understand sometimes people use it to mean something else, though.
I think most people don’t understand and underestimate the effects of mob mentality and basing serious decisions purely off of emotion rather than from a more logical and rational perspective.
Just to clarify for my brand new critics, temperance is always to be utilized. For example, it would be a sad world if we didn’t seek out partners because we liked them or not. But chasing after someone purely off of our more animalistic urges doesn’t always lead to positive places.
Taking into account things like compatibility is very rational. “I like you enough the think about how well we could do together,” is very mature and respectable in my opinion.
So your going deny my right's to be aromantic? beacuse thats what im seeing
What? Is this like a joke or something? I’m being serious, because I don’t understand how that could be targeting anyone in particular.
Regardless of whatever your sexual orientation is, I think thoughtfully thinking about who you want to be with is rational and emotional. It would require you to have an emotional investment in said person and have the maturity to determine if a relationship with said person would be toxic/unhealthy or productive/supportive.
For example, I have low self-esteem. So it is a tendency of mine to think that almost everyone is out of my league. Is that true? Probably, probably not. Is it rational? Maybe, maybe not. But is it miserable? Yes.
So, would it be better to lean into my emotional side of self deprecation and be sad and lonely forever, or would it be better to stop the pity parties and learn to love myself so I can better appreciate and love the people around me? (This is rhetorical, by the way).
What? may I ask, do you know what Aromantic means?
Yes, actually. Can you explain how what I wrote is anti-aromantic?
GUYS.
STOP.
I apologize if my tone seems antagonistic. I am genuinely curious as to how I could have meant any harm to a group of people I wasn’t trying to target in anyway. If that seems ironic or sarcastic, it isn’t. I want to learn and improve in any way I can.
WAIT WAIT WAIT CYNO SAID YOU SOUND LIKE AN OLD TAVERNER HE KNEW
Wait, what did Cyno say? And...why are we bringing up Cyno?
Because Cyno saw this conversation and said he knew and old taverner named VTL who’s discord username was the same as this guys and they talked the exact same way.
Bruhhhhhh bringing up Cyno isn’t bad, am I not allowed to mention my friend?
My fault, Naner. Misphrased that. I meant that more like in the sense that "why is he on DDB?"
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Yes, a sense of personality is easy. But people have so much more depth than that; for instance, do you know WHY I'm like that? It could be I was born that way; it could be that I was told that's how I should act; it could even be guilt about me doing poor things in the past and so I'm making up for it. Everyone has reasons for what they do; people being jerks isn't okay, period, but just criticizing them feels different if they're just a butthead and if they're lashing out due to their mother dying or something.
And I never judge people based on appearance, just so we're clear.
But you can learn that online too. And in person, people can lie. Feels like you’re saying we shouldn’t criticize in the first place, and sometimes constructive criticism is helpful.
...people can lie online too? And what other people call constructive criticism I tend to call 'feedback'. I mean criticism as in judging others for their actions in an offensive or provocative manner.
Yeah. People can tell you things in person and online that aren’t true, and you just have to criticize based on what you know.
Yes, a sense of personality is easy. But people have so much more depth than that; for instance, do you know WHY I'm like that? It could be I was born that way; it could be that I was told that's how I should act; it could even be guilt about me doing poor things in the past and so I'm making up for it. Everyone has reasons for what they do; people being jerks isn't okay, period, but just criticizing them feels different if they're just a butthead and if they're lashing out due to their mother dying or something.
And I never judge people based on appearance, just so we're clear.
But you can learn that online too. And in person, people can lie. Feels like you’re saying we shouldn’t criticize in the first place, and sometimes constructive criticism is helpful.
...people can lie online too? And what other people call constructive criticism I tend to call 'feedback'. I mean criticism as in judging others for their actions in an offensive or provocative manner.
I agree with this. Feedback is different. It is uplifting and edifying and should sting your ego in a way in which the sting allows you to want to be better without any shame involved.
I don't actually know what trans means. I could Google it, I guess, but that's often misleading.
Trans means that the gender you were assigned at birht no longer is the gender you feel, so I feel mostly like a they/them, but I also can feel like a she/her, and I prefer she/her pronouns
Oh. I've only ever heard gender used as a physical thing; you know, girls can give birth, boys can't. But I'm guessing that's not how you see it?
I sort of believe that in recent years, the definition of gender has changed
I believe it has changed to the gender you most feel,
Biologically I am male, I know that, I don't feel male, evey
What do you mean by 'feeling' male, though? Like, you don't feel strong/aggressive as opposed to calm/clever, or...
It appears that I have unintentionally created problems here. I am deeply sorry.
Gato, I’m not trying to assume anything and I’m not entirely sure what you are trying to get at. This is what I meant earlier by people underestimating the impact of making decisions purely based off emotions.
When I was talking about relationships, that was an example for reference. It was nothing more personal than a tree casting a shadow over a rock because the sun is in a different position in the sky.
Please understand that I am not new here, either. I believe I may know you as cynophobia. Which is ironic given that you love dogs. I am VTL. This is a new account because my old email is in the process of being replaced by this new one.
I will always love and support you. (And if this isn’t Cyno, I apologize for the awkward apology and explanation. This is supposed to be a griping thread, or so I thought. Why can’t a man just gripe in peace lol)
It appears that I have unintentionally created problems here. I am deeply sorry.
Gato, I’m not trying to assume anything and I’m not entirely sure what you are trying to get at. This is what I meant earlier by people underestimating the impact of making decisions purely based off emotions.
When I was talking about relationships, that was an example for reference. It was nothing more personal than a tree casting a shadow over a rock because the sun is in a different position in the sky.
Please understand that I am not new here, either. I believe I may know you as cynophobia. Which is ironic given that you love dogs. I am VTL. This is a new account because my old email is in the process of being replaced by this new one.
I will always love and support you. (And if this isn’t Cyno, I apologize for the awkward apology and explanation. This is supposed to be a griping thread, or so I thought. Why can’t a man just gripe in peace lol)
Gato isn't Cyno, sorry to say.
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It appears that I have unintentionally created problems here. I am deeply sorry.
Gato, I’m not trying to assume anything and I’m not entirely sure what you are trying to get at. This is what I meant earlier by people underestimating the impact of making decisions purely based off emotions.
When I was talking about relationships, that was an example for reference. It was nothing more personal than a tree casting a shadow over a rock because the sun is in a different position in the sky.
Please understand that I am not new here, either. I believe I may know you as cynophobia. Which is ironic given that you love dogs. I am VTL. This is a new account because my old email is in the process of being replaced by this new one.
I will always love and support you. (And if this isn’t Cyno, I apologize for the awkward apology and explanation. This is supposed to be a griping thread, or so I thought. Why can’t a man just gripe in peace lol)
The user Cyno has left the forums; they only saw this conversation via Bananer, A friend of Cyno
I get your point
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Hello! Call meTana. My pronouns are She/Her. I am a teenager. I have Autism and ADHD. And, you would probably call me trans femme, Pansexual pancake, and ace I will mother you if you are being stupid. ALL HAIL MERLIN! [roll]1d4[/roll] + [roll]1d4[/roll] + [roll]1d4[/roll] + [roll]1d4[/roll] + [roll]1d4[/roll] + [roll]1d4[/roll] = [roll][roll:-6]+[roll:-5]+[roll:-4]+[roll:-3]+[roll:-2]+[roll:-1][/roll] I have adopted Golden, Salem, Wes, Aspen, and Foalin.
It appears that I have unintentionally created problems here. I am deeply sorry.
Gato, I’m not trying to assume anything and I’m not entirely sure what you are trying to get at. This is what I meant earlier by people underestimating the impact of making decisions purely based off emotions.
When I was talking about relationships, that was an example for reference. It was nothing more personal than a tree casting a shadow over a rock because the sun is in a different position in the sky.
Please understand that I am not new here, either. I believe I may know you as cynophobia. Which is ironic given that you love dogs. I am VTL. This is a new account because my old email is in the process of being replaced by this new one.
I will always love and support you. (And if this isn’t Cyno, I apologize for the awkward apology and explanation. This is supposed to be a griping thread, or so I thought. Why can’t a man just gripe in peace lol)
Cyno is very amused you think this is him
lol
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But you can learn that online too. And in person, people can lie. Feels like you’re saying we shouldn’t criticize in the first place, and sometimes constructive criticism is helpful.
...people can lie online too? And what other people call constructive criticism I tend to call 'feedback'. I mean criticism as in judging others for their actions in an offensive or provocative manner.
Yeah. People can tell you things in person and online that aren’t true, and you just have to criticize based on what you know.
Fair, I suppose. I just misunderstood how 'criticize' was being used here, I think.
I don't actually know what trans means. I could Google it, I guess, but that's often misleading.
Trans means that the gender you were assigned at birht no longer is the gender you feel, so I feel mostly like a they/them, but I also can feel like a she/her, and I prefer she/her pronouns
Oh. I've only ever heard gender used as a physical thing; you know, girls can give birth, boys can't. But I'm guessing that's not how you see it?
I sort of believe that in recent years, the definition of gender has changed
I believe it has changed to the gender you most feel,
Biologically I am male, I know that, I don't feel male, evey
What do you mean by 'feeling' male, though? Like, you don't feel strong/aggressive as opposed to calm/clever, or...
It's really hard to explain
to put it simply
I wish I wasn't born male
I wish that I was born as a girl, and I will do my best to act as one, to create the image in society of me being a girl
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Hello! Call meTana. My pronouns are She/Her. I am a teenager. I have Autism and ADHD. And, you would probably call me trans femme, Pansexual pancake, and ace I will mother you if you are being stupid. ALL HAIL MERLIN! [roll]1d4[/roll] + [roll]1d4[/roll] + [roll]1d4[/roll] + [roll]1d4[/roll] + [roll]1d4[/roll] + [roll]1d4[/roll] = [roll][roll:-6]+[roll:-5]+[roll:-4]+[roll:-3]+[roll:-2]+[roll:-1][/roll] I have adopted Golden, Salem, Wes, Aspen, and Foalin.
...people can lie online too? And what other people call constructive criticism I tend to call 'feedback'. I mean criticism as in judging others for their actions in an offensive or provocative manner.
I agree with this. Feedback is different. It is uplifting and edifying and should sting your ego in a way in which the sting allows you to want to be better without any shame involved.
Glad to know I'm not the only one who viewed it that way.
It appears that I have unintentionally created problems here. I am deeply sorry.
Gato, I’m not trying to assume anything and I’m not entirely sure what you are trying to get at. This is what I meant earlier by people underestimating the impact of making decisions purely based off emotions.
When I was talking about relationships, that was an example for reference. It was nothing more personal than a tree casting a shadow over a rock because the sun is in a different position in the sky.
Please understand that I am not new here, either. I believe I may know you as cynophobia. Which is ironic given that you love dogs. I am VTL. This is a new account because my old email is in the process of being replaced by this new one.
I will always love and support you. (And if this isn’t Cyno, I apologize for the awkward apology and explanation. This is supposed to be a griping thread, or so I thought. Why can’t a man just gripe in peace lol)
...people can lie online too? And what other people call constructive criticism I tend to call 'feedback'. I mean criticism as in judging others for their actions in an offensive or provocative manner.
Here's a link to my Discord thing: The Dorky Dragon Tavern
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Thanks, Moon.
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I know
I overacted, and I know that
Hello! Call me Tana.
My pronouns are She/Her.
I am a teenager. I have Autism and ADHD. And, you would probably call me trans femme, Pansexual pancake, and ace
I will mother you if you are being stupid.
ALL HAIL MERLIN! [roll]1d4[/roll] + [roll]1d4[/roll] + [roll]1d4[/roll] + [roll]1d4[/roll] + [roll]1d4[/roll] + [roll]1d4[/roll] = [roll][roll:-6]+[roll:-5]+[roll:-4]+[roll:-3]+[roll:-2]+[roll:-1][/roll]
I have adopted Golden, Salem, Wes, Aspen, and Foalin.
Hello fry!
Hello! Call me Tana.
My pronouns are She/Her.
I am a teenager. I have Autism and ADHD. And, you would probably call me trans femme, Pansexual pancake, and ace
I will mother you if you are being stupid.
ALL HAIL MERLIN! [roll]1d4[/roll] + [roll]1d4[/roll] + [roll]1d4[/roll] + [roll]1d4[/roll] + [roll]1d4[/roll] + [roll]1d4[/roll] = [roll][roll:-6]+[roll:-5]+[roll:-4]+[roll:-3]+[roll:-2]+[roll:-1][/roll]
I have adopted Golden, Salem, Wes, Aspen, and Foalin.
...I'd call that providing feedback. I view criticism as judging people. I understand sometimes people use it to mean something else, though.
Here's a link to my Discord thing: The Dorky Dragon Tavern
"Avoid roasted cabbage, do not eat earwax, and look on the bright side of life." -Angela
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Hello, all! Foalin is my familiar, after a little conversation...
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My fault, Naner. Misphrased that. I meant that more like in the sense that "why is he on DDB?"
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Yeah. People can tell you things in person and online that aren’t true, and you just have to criticize based on what you know.
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I agree with this. Feedback is different. It is uplifting and edifying and should sting your ego in a way in which the sting allows you to want to be better without any shame involved.
What do you mean by 'feeling' male, though? Like, you don't feel strong/aggressive as opposed to calm/clever, or...
Here's a link to my Discord thing: The Dorky Dragon Tavern
"Avoid roasted cabbage, do not eat earwax, and look on the bright side of life." -Angela
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Cyno is very amused you think this is him
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Gato isn't Cyno, sorry to say.
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I get your point
Hello! Call me Tana.
My pronouns are She/Her.
I am a teenager. I have Autism and ADHD. And, you would probably call me trans femme, Pansexual pancake, and ace
I will mother you if you are being stupid.
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I have adopted Golden, Salem, Wes, Aspen, and Foalin.
lol
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Fair, I suppose. I just misunderstood how 'criticize' was being used here, I think.
Here's a link to my Discord thing: The Dorky Dragon Tavern
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Hello, all! Foalin is my familiar, after a little conversation...
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It's really hard to explain
to put it simply
I wish I wasn't born male
I wish that I was born as a girl, and I will do my best to act as one, to create the image in society of me being a girl
Hello! Call me Tana.
My pronouns are She/Her.
I am a teenager. I have Autism and ADHD. And, you would probably call me trans femme, Pansexual pancake, and ace
I will mother you if you are being stupid.
ALL HAIL MERLIN! [roll]1d4[/roll] + [roll]1d4[/roll] + [roll]1d4[/roll] + [roll]1d4[/roll] + [roll]1d4[/roll] + [roll]1d4[/roll] = [roll][roll:-6]+[roll:-5]+[roll:-4]+[roll:-3]+[roll:-2]+[roll:-1][/roll]
I have adopted Golden, Salem, Wes, Aspen, and Foalin.
Glad to know I'm not the only one who viewed it that way.
Here's a link to my Discord thing: The Dorky Dragon Tavern
"Avoid roasted cabbage, do not eat earwax, and look on the bright side of life." -Angela
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Hello, all! Foalin is my familiar, after a little conversation...
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Alright. Bye, y'all! Be back in ~2 hours, hopefully, for a bit. Let's keep this civil, shall we?
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