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Guys. I… have something to say. I’m not sure if this thread includes love/relationship advice, but here goes.

I have a crush on a girl. We’ve known each other for about 4 years now, and we’re good friends. I have her in half my classes, which is pretty good given that I don’t have a small amount of classes. We actually do share a lot of the same interests, and at one point I did invite her to my birthday party (which was a movie, although there were like 5 other people there with us).

I’m currently stuck. There’s a local fair coming up next week, and I want to invite her to it. The thing is, I’m not sure if this would be too big of a step for a first date. To make matters worse, there’s a couple things compounding the situation.

Firstly, I’m only available on one of the days of the fair. Secondly, our whole school goes to a camp for the first three days of school, so we get back Friday, meaning she can’t ask her parents if she’s free then. Thirdly, at the end of last year she was in a relationship. She was talking about how she was probably going to leave the relationship, but I don’t know if she’s in another one now. Fourthly, she doesn’t know that I’m queer, and while I’m nervous to tell her, I don’t want her to misgender me.

Finally. And this is the worst part. I’ve seen firsthand that crushes and relationships can ruin friendships if they become toxic. Also, for our school, no secrets are secret for long. I’d probably be teased mercilessly about it, and everyone would know within about a week or so, even if it’s not official.

Hoping for y’all’s advice, because I’m going to need to ask her about it soon in order to check availability.

So ask her if she's got a boyfriend, plain and simple. Confess what you feel for her. If you truly want to be with her, you wouldn't be scared of asking her out. So what if everyone hears? Who cares?

Life is too short to worry about this type of bullshit and how it might ruin your life. Go forward and ******* do it. If it doesn't work, then it doesn't work. But there's no time, at that point, to look back and wonder about what could've been. 

For my sake, for Tana's, for everyone's here but most importantly yours, do this and don't look back. If she says no, be proud of the fact that she was honest and that you learn from the experience.

I really want to. But. Asking someone if they’re single (to me) is just… weird. And off. I do like her, but the last time I tried this, the friendship was ruined. I barely speak to the person anymore. I have a constant fear of rejection (which I’ve said a lot of times), and I’m afraid if I do this, I’ll be left alone again. I’m terrified of being brokenhearted, because I’ve been there before.

 I myself have joked, and other people have joked about me, that the song that best describes my life in a nutshell is “Bad at Love”, and there’s reasons for that.

It is completely normal to ask someone if they're in a relationship. If you like her, you might have to risk your friendship. Decide who she is to you----a friend or a lover? 

A broken heart is bullshit. There's 8 billion people out there, and each relationship makes your next one better. You're what, 15? 16? You're not going to find the love of your life today.  

 My leige. all of humanity equates to one nanosecond floating on a speck of dust.life is too short to regret not doing something 

 That… doesn’t help.

 Fine I'll translate 

Go for it life is to short for regretting not doing something 

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Guys. I… have something to say. I’m not sure if this thread includes love/relationship advice, but here goes.

I have a crush on a girl. We’ve known each other for about 4 years now, and we’re good friends. I have her in half my classes, which is pretty good given that I don’t have a small amount of classes. We actually do share a lot of the same interests, and at one point I did invite her to my birthday party (which was a movie, although there were like 5 other people there with us).

I’m currently stuck. There’s a local fair coming up next week, and I want to invite her to it. The thing is, I’m not sure if this would be too big of a step for a first date. To make matters worse, there’s a couple things compounding the situation.

Firstly, I’m only available on one of the days of the fair. Secondly, our whole school goes to a camp for the first three days of school, so we get back Friday, meaning she can’t ask her parents if she’s free then. Thirdly, at the end of last year she was in a relationship. She was talking about how she was probably going to leave the relationship, but I don’t know if she’s in another one now. Fourthly, she doesn’t know that I’m queer, and while I’m nervous to tell her, I don’t want her to misgender me.

Finally. And this is the worst part. I’ve seen firsthand that crushes and relationships can ruin friendships if they become toxic. Also, for our school, no secrets are secret for long. I’d probably be teased mercilessly about it, and everyone would know within about a week or so, even if it’s not official.

Hoping for y’all’s advice, because I’m going to need to ask her about it soon in order to check availability.

So ask her if she's got a boyfriend, plain and simple. Confess what you feel for her. If you truly want to be with her, you wouldn't be scared of asking her out. So what if everyone hears? Who cares?

Life is too short to worry about this type of bullshit and how it might ruin your life. Go forward and ******* do it. If it doesn't work, then it doesn't work. But there's no time, at that point, to look back and wonder about what could've been. 

For my sake, for Tana's, for everyone's here but most importantly yours, do this and don't look back. If she says no, be proud of the fact that she was honest and that you learn from the experience.

I really want to. But. Asking someone if they’re single (to me) is just… weird. And off. I do like her, but the last time I tried this, the friendship was ruined. I barely speak to the person anymore. I have a constant fear of rejection (which I’ve said a lot of times), and I’m afraid if I do this, I’ll be left alone again. I’m terrified of being brokenhearted, because I’ve been there before.

 I myself have joked, and other people have joked about me, that the song that best describes my life in a nutshell is “Bad at Love”, and there’s reasons for that.

It is completely normal to ask someone if they're in a relationship. If you like her, you might have to risk your friendship. Decide who she is to you----a friend or a lover? 

A broken heart is bullshit. There's 8 billion people out there, and each relationship makes your next one better. You're what, 15? 16? You're not going to find the love of your life today.  

 My leige. all of humanity equates to one nanosecond floating on a speck of dust.life is too short to regret not doing something 

 That… doesn’t help.

 Fine I'll translate 

Go for it life is to short for regretting not doing something 

 So I’ve heard.

Link ya gonna regret something eventually. My most recent regret got me four HOURS of Saturday school. Trust me. Compared to that relationships are easy.

Link I have like five things in my life you're one of them I only have your best interests in mind and I say go for it

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Link I have like five things in my life you're one of them I only have your best interests in mind and I say go for it

 thats a surprisingly small amount of things considering you added someone you just met to that list 

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Link ya gonna regret something eventually. My most recent regret got me four HOURS of Saturday school. Trust me. Compared to that relationships are easy.

 It would be the other way around for me. I’ve suffered so many regrets, another feels like it might break me.

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Link I have like five things in my life you're one of them I only have your best interests in mind and I say go for it

 thats a surprisingly small amount of things considering you added someone you just met to that list 

 Yea I don’t got a lot

I literally wrote it out and deleted it cause I didn’t know what to say without the wording being awkward.

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I literally wrote it out and deleted it cause I didn’t know what to say without the wording being awkward.

 Post it.

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I literally wrote it out and deleted it cause I didn’t know what to say without the wording being awkward.

 Post it.

 No like in my DMs with the girl. And I didn’t copy it.

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I literally wrote it out and deleted it cause I didn’t know what to say without the wording being awkward.

 Post it.

 No like in my DMs with the girl. And I didn’t copy it.

 Still post it. Post it when you know they aren't on.