Foalin. If you chicken out, two things will happen. First --- and the most important --- the wrath of Gato and I shall be wreaked upon you.
Secondly: Think about it this way. You like her, right? You want to be with her, right? Do you think that not asking her will get you there? Maybe she says no, maybe she says yes. You won't know until you take the chance. If you don't ask her, then...well, you'll never get the goal fulfilled. Also -- you have an advantage over some of us. You're homeschooled, and you only see her in seminary. Thus, gossip won't really circulate or affect you. (Anyway: not tryna say anything except for DO IT WHAT'S THE DOWNSIDE???)
if she says no I would have to be in the same class as her for at least the rest of the school year, maybe the next one if we end up in the same class again. also, one of my friends is also friends with her, so if she says no he is gonna tease me. the downside is i REALLY don't like anxiety. plus social situations can nearly give me panic attacks(not fun, if you were wondering). plus I also don't have much of a window to ask her. she gets there pretty much right before class starts, and she leaves pretty much right after, and she is always with her friends, which would make me more anxious. also I never know what to say to people when they talk to me, let alone the other way around. you might have noticed I REALLY don't like getting out of my comfort zone. and asking people out is way out of my comfort zone.
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he/him u can call me Foalin, Zabbaddee, or give me new nickname. if me=annoying, tell, bc knowing u not like me > u pretend to
this is Gato's way. we should copy Gato. [roll]1d8[/roll] + [roll]1d8[/roll] + [roll]1d8[/roll] + [roll]1d8[/roll] = [roll][roll:-4]+[roll:-3]+[roll:-2]+[roll:-1][/roll]
Talking to people actually isn't as hard as it seems. If there's anything, anything, I've learned from being a decently popular dork (this is a new thing), it's that you don't need to talk at all. The really one true social rule for all humans is that they love to talk about themselves. Get her talking. Ask her a few questions (about herself). Learn about her --- I bet you guys don't get a lot of time to talk during seminary (idk, I've never had it), so...talk to her outside of that. Maybe ask if she wants to study together (as friends), if there's homework or something. Get her to hang out somehow. Figure out some of her interests --- these'll be useful.
Then: play it chill. The biggest mistake people make is rushing in too fast. Don't immediately walk up to her and ask "hey do you wanna go out?". Just play it chill. 99% of people who end up dating are already friends, no matter what the movies say. So --- and I know it's agonizing --- become her friend! Learn more about her, get to spend some time around her. Don't make it overly weird.
Then...heck, you don't need to do it like the movies. There doesn't need to be some special moment at twilight on a dusky hill on the twelfth night of June. Ask her out! And be confident --- maybe she says no! It's all ok, even when it seems terrible.
And if she says yes...wellllllll then, you sly dog! Gone and gotten yourself a girl while you've been gone! (Jk)
Anyway, look. The other main lesson is to be chill. Take it relaxed. Even when something seems world-ending, be calm about it. Let it flow by you. The less reactant you are to things, the better. Finally --- about talking to people? I know this is a school-counselor's-office poster but anyway: be yourself. Don't let them faze you. You are you, whether you like it or not. So what if they care? What can they do?
Most of all, you've got this. You don't have to try any of the above. Do what works for you --- this is your first sojourn. Believe in yourself. Don't let others get you down. You got this.
:D
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that is actually some really good advice. my only problem is I am me, which I really don't like. Im kinda boring as a person tbh. my hobbies are video games and books and that's it, I'm depressed, not very confident, don't like myself, don't have many friends, I'm home schooled, I'm a nerd, I'm not particularly handsome, despite what my parents say, I'm awkward, most of my life Is just coping mechanisms, I'm very unmotivated, I'm needy, I'm irritating, I'm not good at socializing, I really suck at sympathy and empathy(I'm 87% convinced I'm a sociopath), I don't believe in myself at all, and almost definitely have impostor syndrome.
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he/him u can call me Foalin, Zabbaddee, or give me new nickname. if me=annoying, tell, bc knowing u not like me > u pretend to
this is Gato's way. we should copy Gato. [roll]1d8[/roll] + [roll]1d8[/roll] + [roll]1d8[/roll] + [roll]1d8[/roll] = [roll][roll:-4]+[roll:-3]+[roll:-2]+[roll:-1][/roll]
Foalin. If you chicken out, two things will happen. First --- and the most important --- the wrath of Gato and I shall be wreaked upon you.
Secondly: Think about it this way. You like her, right? You want to be with her, right? Do you think that not asking her will get you there? Maybe she says no, maybe she says yes. You won't know until you take the chance. If you don't ask her, then...well, you'll never get the goal fulfilled. Also -- you have an advantage over some of us. You're homeschooled, and you only see her in seminary. Thus, gossip won't really circulate or affect you. (Anyway: not tryna say anything except for DO IT WHAT'S THE DOWNSIDE???)
if she says no I would have to be in the same class as her for at least the rest of the school year, maybe the next one if we end up in the same class again. also, one of my friends is also friends with her, so if she says no he is gonna tease me. the downside is i REALLY don't like anxiety. plus social situations can nearly give me panic attacks(not fun, if you were wondering). plus I also don't have much of a window to ask her. she gets there pretty much right before class starts, and she leaves pretty much right after, and she is always with her friends, which would make me more anxious. also I never know what to say to people when they talk to me, let alone the other way around. you might have noticed I REALLY don't like getting out of my comfort zone. and asking people out is way out of my comfort zone.
But what's there to be anxious about if they tease you? It's because you were more mature than them and got around to it first, and if they can't stop making fun of you for it, you don't need to call them a friend anymore.
Maybe there isn't much time for it --- but again, having the courage to go up while her friends are with her will show her something...hmm...
Finally, I know getting out of your comfort zone's hard for all of us. But you do have to do it if you want to make strides. So maybe this once, and see how it goes.
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wes (he/him) – DM, romantic, a little bit eldritch The Soft in the Storm, your Friendly Neighborhood Storysmith, The Fae Conspirator eat RP run repeat you’re all really cool – know that please coming forth to rebehold the stars extended sig here, check it out!
Talking to people actually isn't as hard as it seems. If there's anything, anything, I've learned from being a decently popular dork (this is a new thing), it's that you don't need to talk at all. The really one true social rule for all humans is that they love to talk about themselves. Get her talking. Ask her a few questions (about herself). Learn about her --- I bet you guys don't get a lot of time to talk during seminary (idk, I've never had it), so...talk to her outside of that. Maybe ask if she wants to study together (as friends), if there's homework or something. Get her to hang out somehow. Figure out some of her interests --- these'll be useful.
Then: play it chill. The biggest mistake people make is rushing in too fast. Don't immediately walk up to her and ask "hey do you wanna go out?". Just play it chill. 99% of people who end up dating are already friends, no matter what the movies say. So --- and I know it's agonizing --- become her friend! Learn more about her, get to spend some time around her. Don't make it overly weird.
Then...heck, you don't need to do it like the movies. There doesn't need to be some special moment at twilight on a dusky hill on the twelfth night of June. Ask her out! And be confident --- maybe she says no! It's all ok, even when it seems terrible.
And if she says yes...wellllllll then, you sly dog! Gone and gotten yourself a girl while you've been gone! (Jk)
Anyway, look. The other main lesson is to be chill. Take it relaxed. Even when something seems world-ending, be calm about it. Let it flow by you. The less reactant you are to things, the better. Finally --- about talking to people? I know this is a school-counselor's-office poster but anyway: be yourself. Don't let them faze you. You are you, whether you like it or not. So what if they care? What can they do?
Most of all, you've got this. You don't have to try any of the above. Do what works for you --- this is your first sojourn. Believe in yourself. Don't let others get you down. You got this.
:D
(Part 1)
that is actually some really good advice. my only problem is I am me, which I really don't like. Im kinda boring as a person tbh. my hobbies are video games and books and that's it, I'm depressed, not very confident, don't like myself, don't have many friends, I'm home schooled, I'm a nerd, I'm not particularly handsome, despite what my parents say, I'm awkward, most of my life Is just coping mechanisms, I'm very unmotivated, I'm needy, I'm irritating, I'm not good at socializing, I really suck at sympathy and empathy(I'm 87% convinced I'm a sociopath), I don't believe in myself at all, and almost definitely have impostor syndrome.
87% is a pretty random number, but sure.
See. The problem here is that you believe this. As long as you do, that's who you'll be. Maybe there's things about your personality that you wish were different, changed. But, so what? If she judges who you are, then she's not good enough for you. You'd be surprised --- I got asked out last year (lasted about a week) by a friend, and we tried it ---- but she judged who I was, what I liked, and so I ended it. So dude, just because you don't think much of yourself doesn't mean that she doesn't --- and, if she doesn't, she's not good enough for you.
wes (he/him) – DM, romantic, a little bit eldritch The Soft in the Storm, your Friendly Neighborhood Storysmith, The Fae Conspirator eat RP run repeat you’re all really cool – know that please coming forth to rebehold the stars extended sig here, check it out!
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if she says no I would have to be in the same class as her for at least the rest of the school year, maybe the next one if we end up in the same class again. also, one of my friends is also friends with her, so if she says no he is gonna tease me. the downside is i REALLY don't like anxiety. plus social situations can nearly give me panic attacks(not fun, if you were wondering). plus I also don't have much of a window to ask her. she gets there pretty much right before class starts, and she leaves pretty much right after, and she is always with her friends, which would make me more anxious. also I never know what to say to people when they talk to me, let alone the other way around. you might have noticed I REALLY don't like getting out of my comfort zone. and asking people out is way out of my comfort zone.
he/him u can call me Foalin, Zabbaddee, or give me new nickname. if me=annoying, tell, bc knowing u not like me > u pretend to
this is Gato's way. we should copy Gato. [roll]1d8[/roll] + [roll]1d8[/roll] + [roll]1d8[/roll] + [roll]1d8[/roll] = [roll][roll:-4]+[roll:-3]+[roll:-2]+[roll:-1][/roll]
Hello, all! I am Golden_Axolotl_Dragon's familiar, after a little conversation...
this is my extended signature(hint, click it): :3
that is actually some really good advice. my only problem is I am me, which I really don't like. Im kinda boring as a person tbh. my hobbies are video games and books and that's it, I'm depressed, not very confident, don't like myself, don't have many friends, I'm home schooled, I'm a nerd, I'm not particularly handsome, despite what my parents say, I'm awkward, most of my life Is just coping mechanisms, I'm very unmotivated, I'm needy, I'm irritating, I'm not good at socializing, I really suck at sympathy and empathy(I'm 87% convinced I'm a sociopath), I don't believe in myself at all, and almost definitely have impostor syndrome.
he/him u can call me Foalin, Zabbaddee, or give me new nickname. if me=annoying, tell, bc knowing u not like me > u pretend to
this is Gato's way. we should copy Gato. [roll]1d8[/roll] + [roll]1d8[/roll] + [roll]1d8[/roll] + [roll]1d8[/roll] = [roll][roll:-4]+[roll:-3]+[roll:-2]+[roll:-1][/roll]
Hello, all! I am Golden_Axolotl_Dragon's familiar, after a little conversation...
this is my extended signature(hint, click it): :3
But what's there to be anxious about if they tease you? It's because you were more mature than them and got around to it first, and if they can't stop making fun of you for it, you don't need to call them a friend anymore.
Maybe there isn't much time for it --- but again, having the courage to go up while her friends are with her will show her something...hmm...
Finally, I know getting out of your comfort zone's hard for all of us. But you do have to do it if you want to make strides. So maybe this once, and see how it goes.
wes (he/him) – DM, romantic, a little bit eldritch
The Soft in the Storm, your Friendly Neighborhood Storysmith, The Fae Conspirator
eat RP run repeat
you’re all really cool – know that please
coming forth to rebehold the stars
extended sig here, check it out!
87% is a pretty random number, but sure.
See. The problem here is that you believe this. As long as you do, that's who you'll be. Maybe there's things about your personality that you wish were different, changed. But, so what? If she judges who you are, then she's not good enough for you. You'd be surprised --- I got asked out last year (lasted about a week) by a friend, and we tried it ---- but she judged who I was, what I liked, and so I ended it. So dude, just because you don't think much of yourself doesn't mean that she doesn't --- and, if she doesn't, she's not good enough for you.
wes (he/him) – DM, romantic, a little bit eldritch
The Soft in the Storm, your Friendly Neighborhood Storysmith, The Fae Conspirator
eat RP run repeat
you’re all really cool – know that please
coming forth to rebehold the stars
extended sig here, check it out!