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There was no abuse, and CPS never worked.

 

 Abuse can be verbal jsyk, yelling and shaming is a type of abuse and also this might be? It’s probably just trash parenting though.

 I don't really have control of my life, it's why I like anime, video games, and why I choose to be a god, when possible, when I play anything.

 Okay uhmmmm if there’s any verbal abuse you should report that 

or like get a new device

Summers coming up, you could probably find a job and get the money for a new device?

 I have a job, just don't make a lot.

 Well, save up. Try to act more independent too, that could probably convince your parents that you should be treated like an adult.

 I'll try.

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There was no abuse, and CPS never worked.

 

 Abuse can be verbal jsyk, yelling and shaming is a type of abuse and also this might be? It’s probably just trash parenting though.

 I don't really have control of my life, it's why I like anime, video games, and why I choose to be a god, when possible, when I play anything.

You have siblings to force power upon?

 I get in trouble for that.

Ok, start getting into sus things like butchering, hunting, and watch true crime we while taking notes. (Make you look a serial k*ller)

 Dude just shut up what your saying isn't helpful nor relevant to the situation

Oh uhmmm I’m looking up the minimum wage for each state, and according to the US department of labor (assuming you’re in the US), the federal minimum wage is 7.25 dollars. Unless you’re in Oklahoma and your company doesn’t make that much money. Then it’s 2 dollars. But assuming you’re in the US and not in Oklahoma, you probably should be able to get a phone in like a few months, maybe less? This is just my flawed calculations, sorry if they’re wrong, do still need to look up the current average price of a phone. Also this depends on how many hours you work.

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Oh uhmmm I’m looking up the minimum wage for each state, and according to the US department of labor (assuming you’re in the US), the federal minimum wage is 7.25 dollars. Unless you’re in Oklahoma and your company doesn’t make that much money. Then it’s 2 dollars. But assuming you’re in the US and not in Oklahoma, you probably should be able to get a phone in like a few months, maybe less? This is just my flawed calculations, sorry if they’re wrong, do still need to look up the current average price of a phone. Also this depends on how many hours you work.

 I'm part-time at Publix, min is 14 dollars but I put half my pay into savings that I don't touch, the rest I spend on transportation and food for late nights.

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Oh uhmmm I’m looking up the minimum wage for each state, and according to the US department of labor (assuming you’re in the US), the federal minimum wage is 7.25 dollars. Unless you’re in Oklahoma and your company doesn’t make that much money. Then it’s 2 dollars. But assuming you’re in the US and not in Oklahoma, you probably should be able to get a phone in like a few months, maybe less? This is just my flawed calculations, sorry if they’re wrong, do still need to look up the current average price of a phone. Also this depends on how many hours you work.

 I'm part-time at Publix, min is 14 dollars but I put half my pay into savings that I don't touch, the rest I spend on transportation and food for late nights.

 Why can’t you touch your savings?

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Oh uhmmm I’m looking up the minimum wage for each state, and according to the US department of labor (assuming you’re in the US), the federal minimum wage is 7.25 dollars. Unless you’re in Oklahoma and your company doesn’t make that much money. Then it’s 2 dollars. But assuming you’re in the US and not in Oklahoma, you probably should be able to get a phone in like a few months, maybe less? This is just my flawed calculations, sorry if they’re wrong, do still need to look up the current average price of a phone. Also this depends on how many hours you work.

 I'm part-time at Publix, min is 14 dollars but I put half my pay into savings that I don't touch, the rest I spend on transportation and food for late nights.

 Why can’t you touch your savings?

 I don't have access to it, my mother does.

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Oh uhmmm I’m looking up the minimum wage for each state, and according to the US department of labor (assuming you’re in the US), the federal minimum wage is 7.25 dollars. Unless you’re in Oklahoma and your company doesn’t make that much money. Then it’s 2 dollars. But assuming you’re in the US and not in Oklahoma, you probably should be able to get a phone in like a few months, maybe less? This is just my flawed calculations, sorry if they’re wrong, do still need to look up the current average price of a phone. Also this depends on how many hours you work.

 I'm part-time at Publix, min is 14 dollars but I put half my pay into savings that I don't touch, the rest I spend on transportation and food for late nights.

 Why can’t you touch your savings?

 I don't have access to it, my mother does.

 Keep it to yourself, then, when you get it in the future. Or just tell her it’s your money and you should get to keep it.

I’m just throwing out ideas

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Oh uhmmm I’m looking up the minimum wage for each state, and according to the US department of labor (assuming you’re in the US), the federal minimum wage is 7.25 dollars. Unless you’re in Oklahoma and your company doesn’t make that much money. Then it’s 2 dollars. But assuming you’re in the US and not in Oklahoma, you probably should be able to get a phone in like a few months, maybe less? This is just my flawed calculations, sorry if they’re wrong, do still need to look up the current average price of a phone. Also this depends on how many hours you work.

 I'm part-time at Publix, min is 14 dollars but I put half my pay into savings that I don't touch, the rest I spend on transportation and food for late nights.

 Why can’t you touch your savings?

 I don't have access to it, my mother does.

 Keep it to yourself, then, when you get it in the future. Or just tell her it’s your money and you should get to keep it.

I’m just throwing out ideas

 I'll try, and bananer, I changed the outcome of the Celestial Tavern, no mind reading.

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Actually I want this out on here.

I feel trapped in my life.

 Sorry, I just saw this. I will stop the PMs. If you are over 18 you can authorize a transfer of authority in your bank account. First of all, if the account was not set up when you were younger with your parents listed as holders, then it is a felony for them to control the account. Second of all, if the original account is in your name, even with your parents listed as holders, you can start a new personal account, have the bank transfer the other account money to it, and your parents can no longer acess your money. Also you could contact...

Emergency and Physical SafetyImmediate Danger: Call 911 or your local police department immediately.

National Human Trafficking Hotline: If your parents force you to work, restrict your movement, or withhold legal documents, call 1-888-373-7888 or visit the National Human Trafficking Hotline.

National Domestic Violence Hotline: If you face emotional manipulation, stalking, or physical abuse, contact them 24/7 by calling 1-800-799-7233 or texting "START" to 88788.

Mental Health & Crisis Support988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline: Provides 24/7 free, confidential, judgment-free support for emotional distress and trauma. Call or text 988.

Legal and Civil Rights ProtectionsU.S. Department of Justice: If you believe your constitutional rights are being stripped away (e.g., false imprisonment), submit a report using the Civil Rights Division Report Form.

Federal Benefits & IdentitySocial Security Administration: If you suspect your parents are misusing your funds or if you need to take control of your own benefits, call the Social Security Administration at 1-800-772-1213.

State Department: If your parents are withholding your U.S. Passport or identity documents, contact the U.S. Department of State to report them lost or stolen and to request a replacement.

I can offer more information if needed. There are ways to get out of this. We're rooting for you!

(Disclaimer! I have not passed the bar exam and as such am not an official legal councilor. This is meant to be helpful, semi-professional advice. This is not meant to replace a professional's help.)

This might hurt, but also—-what your mother is doing is wrong, I acknowledge that.

You are an ADULT, and you have to take independence and be that person. Instead of retreating back into the digital world when your parents refuse to relinquish control, you can actually discuss this and/or argue for your own independence. Additionally, her controlling your bank account is a felony, like Amber said. You still should speak to her about it, since it looks like she believes that as long as you’re in her house, you have to follow her rules…

Additiomally, $14/hour isn’t great. What about community college, since most states offer programs that pay the tuition? 

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This might hurt, but also—-what your mother is doing is wrong, I acknowledge that.

You are an ADULT, and you have to take independence and be that person. Instead of retreating back into the digital world when your parents refuse to relinquish control, you can actually discuss this and/or argue for your own independence. Additionally, her controlling your bank account is a felony, like Amber said. You still should speak to her about it, since it looks like she believes that as long as you’re in her house, you have to follow her rules…

Additiomally, $14/hour isn’t great. What about community college, since most states offer programs that pay the tuition? 

 Yes. Do you have anyone else that you can talk to about this?

Any of the services I listed should be able to help you if you are in the states. If you want more information, please ask.

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This might hurt, but also—-what your mother is doing is wrong, I acknowledge that.

You are an ADULT, and you have to take independence and be that person. Instead of retreating back into the digital world when your parents refuse to relinquish control, you can actually discuss this and/or argue for your own independence. Additionally, her controlling your bank account is a felony, like Amber said. You still should speak to her about it, since it looks like she believes that as long as you’re in her house, you have to follow her rules…

Additiomally, $14/hour isn’t great. What about community college, since most states offer programs that pay the tuition? 

 Yes. Do you have anyone else that you can talk to about this?

He should talk to his mother/parents about this.

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There was no abuse, and CPS never worked.

 

Wait.

Dude, what’s happening to you right now qualifies as abuse. Although you may live in her house right now, you are an adult with freedoms that extend to having control over your own money—she can’t just spirit that away without your consent…

How did this work while you grew up? Was her behavior similar?

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There was no abuse, and CPS never worked.

 

Wait.

Dude, what’s happening to you right now qualifies as abuse. Although you may live in her house right now, you are an adult with freedoms that extend to having control over your own money—she can’t just spirit that away without your consent…

How did this work while you grew up? Was her behavior similar?

What is happening to you is not okay. Depending on how long this kind of thing has been happening, this is highly illegal in most countries.

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There was no abuse, and CPS never worked.

 

Wait.

Dude, what’s happening to you right now qualifies as abuse. Although you may live in her house right now, you are an adult with freedoms that extend to having control over your own money—she can’t just spirit that away without your consent…

How did this work while you grew up? Was her behavior similar?

What is happening to you is not okay. Depending on how long this kind of thing has been happening, this is highly illegal in most countries.

 Yes, it is.

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This might hurt, but also—-what your mother is doing is wrong, I acknowledge that.

You are an ADULT, and you have to take independence and be that person. Instead of retreating back into the digital world when your parents refuse to relinquish control, you can actually discuss this and/or argue for your own independence. Additionally, her controlling your bank account is a felony, like Amber said. You still should speak to her about it, since it looks like she believes that as long as you’re in her house, you have to follow her rules…

Additiomally, $14/hour isn’t great. What about community college, since most states offer programs that pay the tuition? 

 Yes. Do you have anyone else that you can talk to about this?

He should talk to his mother/parents about this.

 Isn’t his mother what’s causing all this?

Can we just drop it now?

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Can we just drop it now?

 Yep, sorry.

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Can we just drop it now?

 Yep, sorry.

 Ok, sure.