No, they can’t not pick a spell, but if you use the optional rules in Tasha’s you can swap a spell @ ASI levels, so @ 4th you could swap it for a 2nd-level spell.
Nope, Tasha deals with cantrips.
For other spells, this is dealt with in the PHB:
Additionally, when you gain a level in this class, you can choose one of the sorcerer spells you know and replace it with another spell from the sorcerer spell list, which also must be of a level for which you have spell slots.
That’s right. Me and my players so rarely swap out spells at all that I got confuzzled. Good catch.
I think everyone knew I was talking about optional rules as presented in the Dungeon Masters Workshop, including Flanking by example.
That’s right. Me and my players so rarely swap out spells at all that I got confuzzled. Good catch.
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