i don't wanna be friends with someone but my other friend (who's rly smart abt relationships) says that i should be friends with the person even tho they make me uncomfy and idk what to do
Why does your other friend think you should be friends with them?
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I really like D&D, especially Ravenloft, Exandria and the Upside Down from Stranger Things. My pronouns are she/they (genderfae).
i don't wanna be friends with someone but my other friend (who's rly smart abt relationships) says that i should be friends with the person even tho they make me uncomfy and idk what to do
Why does your other friend think you should be friends with them?
bc my other friend is best friends with the person who's makes me uncomfortable
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I confess it's a shame, When you livin' in a city that's the size of a box and nobody knows yo' name
well they had been touching me a lot but everyone's like "ohhhh it's just their personality" and callin me sensitive and sh*t
I disagree with your other friend. If they’ve been touching you in a way that makes you uncomfortable, you should stay as far away from them as you can. Listen to your intuition.
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I really like D&D, especially Ravenloft, Exandria and the Upside Down from Stranger Things. My pronouns are she/they (genderfae).
well they had been touching me a lot but everyone's like "ohhhh it's just their personality" and callin me sensitive and sh*t
I disagree with your other friend. If they’ve been touching you in a way that makes you uncomfortable, you should stay as far away from them as you can. Listen to your intuition.
well they had been touching me a lot but everyone's like "ohhhh it's just their personality" and callin me sensitive and sh*t
I disagree with your other friend. If they’ve been touching you in a way that makes you uncomfortable, you should stay as far away from them as you can. Listen to your intuition.
I'm agreeing with Woods here.
my advice is right hook first ask questions later
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O sorrow, I have ended, you see, by respecting you, because I am certain you will never leave me.
Ah! I realize it: your beauty lies in the force of your being. You are like those who never left the sad fireside corner of my poor black heart.
O my sorrow, you are better than a well-beloved: because I know that on the day of my final agony, you will be there, lying in my sheets, O sorrow, so that you might once again attempt to enter my heart.
well they had been touching me a lot but everyone's like "ohhhh it's just their personality" and callin me sensitive and sh*t
I disagree with your other friend. If they’ve been touching you in a way that makes you uncomfortable, you should stay as far away from them as you can. Listen to your intuition.
I'm agreeing with Woods here.
yeah...it sucks cause ive been losing friends due to me not being friends with the initial person.
idk, i just want it to be summer already
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I confess it's a shame, When you livin' in a city that's the size of a box and nobody knows yo' name
well they had been touching me a lot but everyone's like "ohhhh it's just their personality" and callin me sensitive and sh*t
I disagree with your other friend. If they’ve been touching you in a way that makes you uncomfortable, you should stay as far away from them as you can. Listen to your intuition.
I'm agreeing with Woods here.
my advice is right hook first ask questions later
haha thanks, that actually makes me feel a lot better
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I confess it's a shame, When you livin' in a city that's the size of a box and nobody knows yo' name
Does the touching-person have autism or anything that would be a medical reason people might excuse things?
Just trying to think of why others might be seeing things differently.
And might it be worth talking about it your brother or parents? Since they'd have more on-the-ground information that might help better in figuring out how to navigate this stuff.
well they had been touching me a lot but everyone's like "ohhhh it's just their personality" and callin me sensitive and sh*t
I disagree with your other friend. If they’ve been touching you in a way that makes you uncomfortable, you should stay as far away from them as you can. Listen to your intuition.
Elliot you already know what I'm going to say about the issue.
yeaaa i do
So you going to do it?
Please dont punch them
To that end, there was a kid that bullied me on and off during elementary and middle school.
One day during 8th grade he was washing the tables (duty swapped between homerooms each day) and slapped me with a rag. Fought back. Told a teacher.
(Being honest, particularly looking back, the whole rag-fight seems really stupid. And honestly it wouldn't really qualify as a "fight" but I'm not sure which words to actually use. It's not nearly as dramatic as I'm making it sound.)
Not sure if was the fight-back (again, not nearly dramatic as "fight-back" implies) or the telling a teacher. (Who had us go to the principal's office.) But he left me alone after that.
And while we weren't friends in high school, chatted with him a few times no problems. So getting faculty involved is also something to consider.
It’s hard to be sure unless Elliot is willing to be more specific, but:
This doesn’t sound like bullying, and it also doesn’t sound like the kind of thing we usually think about when someone mentions non-consensual touching. It just sounds like someone has different expectations around personal space, and they enjoy being closer to others for a variety of reasons. I’ve met many people like that, and there’s nothing wrong with it.
If you’re unwilling to accept that — which is entirely within your rights — then there’s no need to continue talking to them and maintaining your friendship. As I’m sure you know, there’s nothing wrong with needing space and not everyone is going to have the same norms with this sort of thing.
What you absolutely shouldn’t do is get faculty or other adults involved. Not only are you going to lose all respect in the friendgroup, but it’s much harder to control the situation if it escalates to that level. (For example, you could get them in serious, irreversible trouble with the school.)
You have three viable options here.
You can talk to them, honestly, about how it’s making you feel. This is oftentimes a good option, but people won’t always be receptive to it. It’s sort of a case-by-case option.
You can decide screw it, I won’t let this bother me. Don’t feel forced to do so; it’s your choice and your friends need to respect whatever you decide.
You could simply stay away from them and stop talking to them. Just because your relationship-savvy friend wants you to hang out with them doesn’t mean you actually should. Stay true to yourself and your emotions.
Does the touching-person have autism or anything that would be a medical reason people might excuse things?
Just trying to think of why others might be seeing things differently.
And might it be worth talking about it your brother or parents? Since they'd have more on-the-ground information that might help better in figuring out how to navigate this stuff.
no, they don't have autism or anything like that. last time i asked them to stop touching me they just said it was impossible for them to remember. so then i told them that if they weren't able to remember then i wouldn't be friends with them and they just got mad and made a lotta ppl dislike me
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Why does your other friend think you should be friends with them?
I really like D&D, especially Ravenloft, Exandria and the Upside Down from Stranger Things. My pronouns are she/they (genderfae).
well they had been touching me a lot but everyone's like "ohhhh it's just their personality" and callin me sensitive and sh*t
edit: that was in response to Vitus btw
(he/him)
I confess it's a shame, When you livin' in a city that's the size of a box and nobody knows yo' name
-"I Wish" Skee-Lo (literally the best song ever)
Nickname: Elliot the Old (IM NOT THAT OLD VITUS-)
bc my other friend is best friends with the person who's makes me uncomfortable
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I confess it's a shame, When you livin' in a city that's the size of a box and nobody knows yo' name
-"I Wish" Skee-Lo (literally the best song ever)
Nickname: Elliot the Old (IM NOT THAT OLD VITUS-)
I disagree with your other friend. If they’ve been touching you in a way that makes you uncomfortable, you should stay as far away from them as you can. Listen to your intuition.
I really like D&D, especially Ravenloft, Exandria and the Upside Down from Stranger Things. My pronouns are she/they (genderfae).
I'm agreeing with Woods here.
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my advice is right hook first ask questions later
O sorrow, I have ended, you see, by respecting you, because I am certain you will never leave me.
Ah! I realize it: your beauty lies in the force of your being. You are like those who never left the sad fireside corner of my poor black heart.
O my sorrow, you are better than a well-beloved: because I know that on the day of my final agony, you will be there, lying in my sheets, O sorrow, so that you might once again attempt to enter my heart.
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Elliot you already know what I'm going to say about the issue.
What's life without a little war to spice things up? Anyone who worries about the little things should notice the bigger picture.
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yeah...it sucks cause ive been losing friends due to me not being friends with the initial person.
idk, i just want it to be summer already
(he/him)
I confess it's a shame, When you livin' in a city that's the size of a box and nobody knows yo' name
-"I Wish" Skee-Lo (literally the best song ever)
Nickname: Elliot the Old (IM NOT THAT OLD VITUS-)
haha thanks, that actually makes me feel a lot better
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I confess it's a shame, When you livin' in a city that's the size of a box and nobody knows yo' name
-"I Wish" Skee-Lo (literally the best song ever)
Nickname: Elliot the Old (IM NOT THAT OLD VITUS-)
yeaaa i do
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I confess it's a shame, When you livin' in a city that's the size of a box and nobody knows yo' name
-"I Wish" Skee-Lo (literally the best song ever)
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So you going to do it?
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Favorite games series: Dark Souls. Shirtless Solaire. Best best game series of all time: Paper Mario. Fight me about it.
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Does the touching-person have autism or anything that would be a medical reason people might excuse things?
Just trying to think of why others might be seeing things differently.
And might it be worth talking about it your brother or parents? Since they'd have more on-the-ground information that might help better in figuring out how to navigate this stuff.
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I think you should tell that person
To that end, there was a kid that bullied me on and off during elementary and middle school.
One day during 8th grade he was washing the tables (duty swapped between homerooms each day) and slapped me with a rag. Fought back. Told a teacher.
(Being honest, particularly looking back, the whole rag-fight seems really stupid. And honestly it wouldn't really qualify as a "fight" but I'm not sure which words to actually use. It's not nearly as dramatic as I'm making it sound.)
Not sure if was the fight-back (again, not nearly dramatic as "fight-back" implies) or the telling a teacher. (Who had us go to the principal's office.) But he left me alone after that.
And while we weren't friends in high school, chatted with him a few times no problems. So getting faculty involved is also something to consider.
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It’s hard to be sure unless Elliot is willing to be more specific, but:
This doesn’t sound like bullying, and it also doesn’t sound like the kind of thing we usually think about when someone mentions non-consensual touching. It just sounds like someone has different expectations around personal space, and they enjoy being closer to others for a variety of reasons. I’ve met many people like that, and there’s nothing wrong with it.
If you’re unwilling to accept that — which is entirely within your rights — then there’s no need to continue talking to them and maintaining your friendship. As I’m sure you know, there’s nothing wrong with needing space and not everyone is going to have the same norms with this sort of thing.
What you absolutely shouldn’t do is get faculty or other adults involved. Not only are you going to lose all respect in the friendgroup, but it’s much harder to control the situation if it escalates to that level. (For example, you could get them in serious, irreversible trouble with the school.)
You have three viable options here.
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no, they don't have autism or anything like that. last time i asked them to stop touching me they just said it was impossible for them to remember. so then i told them that if they weren't able to remember then i wouldn't be friends with them and they just got mad and made a lotta ppl dislike me
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Nickname: Elliot the Old (IM NOT THAT OLD VITUS-)