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I don't know if there's anyone out there who's like this, but I personally don't really know my sexuality, whether I'm gay or I'm straight.          ╮( ◕ ─ ◕    )╭
Not knowing feels kinda weird when I think about it, but most of the time, it doesn't really feel all that weird (because I don't think about it that much).

In any case, I believe that we should not be discriminating against people based on race, religion, gender, sexuality, etc.
In fact, I think we we should be welcoming people with open arms, no matter what their race, religion, gender, sexuality, etc. may be.
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I say we should be letting people be who they are, no matter their sexuality, so I think DND should be LGBTQIA+ (even if i'm somewhat of a n00b, playing dnd for only a few months now)

We got a little off topic, but in case it helps, I'm going to share my experience. Something similar happened to me when I was a teenager. All my friends, my siblings and, in general, everyone around me, felt sexual attraction to other people. I felt affection, and other feelings, for many people. But I never felt sexual attraction to anyone. It felt pretty weird since everyone was talking about sex, and I didn't care about it at all. For a long time I thought there was something wrong with me, until I understood that everyone is as they are and I learned to accept myself.
I even tried, with some difficulties, both with men and women, but it really doesn't tell me anything.
Today I know that I'm asexual, and that nothing is wrong with me. I live with my wife, whom I love madly even though I'm not sexually attracted to her. I love spending time with her, and sharing all aspects of our life except the sexual one.

Anyway, what I want to say is that maybe your case is different. You might not know your sexual preferences simply because you're bisexual, or because you haven't defined yourself yet. But it could also be that you just have no interest in sex. In any of these cases, what you have to know is that there is nothing wrong with you. Although people focus a lot on that (and there is nothing wrong with that either), human beings have many more facets than sexual. You are who you are, and you don't have to worry because you're different from everyone else. We are all different, actually, in some way or another.

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Perhaps it is the fault of my lack of knowledge of English (I am not a native), but seeing many of the comments I would like to ask a question.
When you say "Friendly" you mean "non-hostile", right? I mention it because for me they are two different things. One can be non-hostile towards something, but that does not mean that it is friendly. He might not care, or he might never have thought about it.

From my experience, in today's D&D player community, I don't run into hostile people. But neither can I say that the tables I participate in (online or in person) are LGBTQIA+ friendly. Even here and there I still come across stupid jokes about elves being gay or effeminate and stuff like that. Probably the person who makes that "joke" does not mean to be hostile, but it does not seem very friendly to me either.

 
"LGBTQIA+-friendly" means the table is openly accepting and supportive of people within or friendly to that alliance.  As you say, there's a sharp difference between "friendly" and simple non-hostility.

What you may be running into , and what gets some folks' undies in a wad, is the enormous and overwhelming difference between "being inclusive" and "not being exclusive".  Some people believe that "not excluding" is all they need to do.  So long as they don't go out of their way to talk about there being no LGBT+ people in their world (as a DM) or their own dislike and distolerance for LGBT+ people (as a person), then everything is fine and nobody should have any issues.  This would be the person who, as a DM (and this is an admittedly over-extreme example for the purposes of making the point clear) sees absolutely nothing wrong with making every last single NPC in their campaign world a white cishet human male who follows the religion of the most Yaweh-like god in the D&D pantheon.  So long as they don't actively say there's no women, no LGBT+ people, no people of color, no nonhumans, or anything else like that in their world?  They feel like there shouldn't be a problem.  They're not actively excluding other people.  They just don't see any reason why they need to go out of their way to "show off" LGBT+ folks, either.

When this sort of person gets pushback because their game/view feels "exclusive", they get very upset.  They tend to snap back, accuse other folks of falsely accusing them of exclusionism (racism, sexism, creedism, or whatever other -ism is under debate), and start making noise about "wokeness", "politics"", and all that other junk because in their minds they're already being as accomodating as they need to be and they don't know why everybody else needs to be such a primadonna about it all.  By the same token however, those people tend to be the first to be openly hostile to LGBT+ players.  Not by being giant flaming exclusionists going on long-winded rants, but simply by discouraging any discussion of non-'normalness'.  They're the ones who say "why does your character's sexuality matter?", "why does this NPC's gender identity matter?", "why does the king's skin color matter?" and the like.  They excise any notion of it from the game, divorce anything that smacks of 'Other' from it, and believe there's nothing wrong with that.

Spoilers: there's everything wrong with that.  Anyone can feel a particular piece of their identity is important to them for any reason; telling players to hide those pieces of their characters' identity because it makes your game feel more comfortable is not even slightly different than telling people to hide their own identities just to make yourself more comfortable.  Not okay.  And will never be okay again.

Frankly, I tend to think of LGBT+ friendliness as whether a table can pass what I think of as the Gay Bechdel Test: could a gay player at your table talk about his husband/her wife and share an ordinary story of married life (i.e. 'my husband and I were watching this movie last night and you wouldn't believe what they did in it...!'), and the rest of the table would react the same way to that story of married life that they would have had it come from a heterosexual player?  If yes, then congratulations - your table is LGBT+-friendly.  Open, easy acceptance of 'Other'-ness, with players who don't shut down any conversation that indicates a non-cishet background or identity.  The ability to chatter freely about your own identity whenever it happens to become relevant, without feeling the need to hide what you are to keep your game or your new friendships.

And to be frank, there is no "non-hostility".  There is 'friendly', and there is varying forms and degrees of hostile.  If somebody tells a married-life story about them and their homosexual spouse, only to receive uncomfortable silence for a moment followed by "that's cool.  Okay, where were we in the game again?", there's no "non" in front of that hostility.  It is not enough to simply avoid active exclusionism anymore.  "Not being exclusive" is not, never has been, and will never again be considered the same as "being inclusive."

Hopefully something in that morass of verbiage helps answer your question.  It's a subject I tend to feel dearly about, so apologies for the long-winded burble.

 Beautifully said! I love all the words you used and thank you for helping me (As well as everyone else in this post replying to me!). And a little tid bit of information, I will be using those extracurricular words you chose in my next book for sure!

Hey look! This is a Magic: the Gathering update that dropped today, but it's from Wizards of the Coast, so there's representation from the company.

Pride Across The Multiverse

"Pride Across the Multiverse is a celebration and reflection of how far we've come, what it took to get here, and what still lies ahead. From the start, we wanted this Secret Lair to celebrate the LGBTQIA2S+ community's relentless creativity. There was no way this collection of eight cards would represent EVERY aspect of the community, but we wanted to honor the hope and joy found in our multifaceted identities. It is our hope that people find some part of their own unique selves reflected in these cards.

"The team worked incredibly hard to depict characters from across the Multiverse on cards that represent everything from quiet mundane moments to big celebrations while recognizing the ongoing fight for our future. As art director, I wanted to celebrate the wide spectrum of identities and experiences by working with artists to express themselves with their style and unique experiences in these cards. This project was a terrific opportunity to bring in new styles and artists while also giving visibility to the folks who have been painting Magic: The Gathering for years! I looked for artists across the spectrum of LGBTQIA2S+ and BIPOC identities; having a breadth of artists is an important part of celebrating the diversity of our community and experiences.

"As a queer Asian American woman, working on this drop was deeply meaningful and a tremendous challenge. This was my first-ever art direction experience, and I am incredibly thankful for the mentorship of Jess Lanzillo and the support from Jontelle Leyson-Smith. I had the immense pleasure of working with an incredibly talented and playful group of people on this project.

"Each card in Pride Across the Multiverse tells its own story of love, struggle, resilience, joy, and community. Stories are how we practice hope, and I think it's so important to hope, to really be in the practice of holding fast and remaining true. It is our triumph, and we will shape the future with our ferocious resilience. I am so proud of what we were all able to accomplish in this set and thrilled to accompany you on this journey."

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The question is poorly worded.

What the OP wants to know is if the D&D community is inclusive. Well, that depends. The community is made up of pockets of the demographic of humanity, mostly of the western nations. You are going to find some people that embrace all kinds, and some that don't. The OP will have to test that out themselves, to find a table that works for them.

I mean, it's also a legitimate question to ask if the company itself is welcoming because it informs the player if there will be official support and representation. A relevant and related point.

Representation and support in the official material makes it plain what the company's stance is.  Any individual table's stance can differ, certainly.  But once again, there's a difference between "inclusive" and "not exclusive".  A DM can work to excise all of the representation built into the books, but they'll have to be the one to do so.  Players can also see what's in the books, and they know this is a game intended to be inclusive and representative.

"Official support", in this instance, mostly means exactly what Wizards is doing - taking a public stance that they support LGBT+ rights and representation and making sure that representation is felt in the books.  No, there's no mechanical rules explicitly discouraging cishet identities or rewarding LGBT+ ones, but nobody wanted or asked for that.  All most anyone in the LGBT+ alliance wants is, frankly, to not feel like they have to claim membership in a special club.  To simply be a person, unremarkable, in the identity they've chosen without being shunned or ostracized for being who they are.

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I don't see how there can be "official support".

Well there's stuff like the Pride of the Multiverse statement that just dropped today:

At Wizards, we prioritize inclusion and diversity in our games and our teams and believe that creates a better place for all. This year we are introducing Pride Across the Multiverse, a celebration of the LGBTQIA2S+ community's relentless creativity. The cards in this Secret Lair drop draw from many experiences, and it is our hope that people find some part of their own unique selves reflected in these cards. 50% of each Pride Across the Multiverse purchase will be donated directly to The Trevor Project.

This is an official statement of support for the community as well as direct action taken to donate to an organization that aims to prevent youth suicide in the LGBTQ+ community. That's basically what I mean by official support and it's rare timing when I openly chide a company for not marching at the forefront of advocacy and like the next day they do this. Thank you, Stormknight! I know yall aren't completely onboarded with WOTC yet, but I'm gonna give you the credit anyway.

I'm AroAce(Aromantic Asexual) so it doesn't affect me as much, but I do know a few people that push against LGBTWIA+, and even more that either are, or support, it.  I'd say it's as inclusive as the people who play it- Obviously it's not anti-LGBTQIA+, but people will do whatever the heck they want.