Not sure if this is the right category for this one? But anyway here it is.
I DM 2 times a week, have run a couple others in the past. I was really nervous for the first session of the campaigns but after that I was calm, even when stuff did go wrong or I had made a large mistake etc.
However as a player, I become incredibly nervous before every session. I think everyones going to cringe at everything I do, that I'll take up too much time, I'll annoy people etc. I am doing some work on myself for where that stems from, but that's a long term thing and not for dndbeyond😅. I was curious if any other DMs experienced this? No problems at all having the "most important" role and acting as multiple NPCs and juggling all these other things, then having to plan,plot and build out of game and you're fine. But as a player become quiet and anxious.
Unfortunately, I don't have the perspective required any longer, to relate to how that feels. I've been infront of different large groups of people on a weekly basis for a couple of decades and have become numb to many of the aspects of performance anxiety.
But what does help is to relax and trust in yourself and overall to try to relax and enjoy the game.
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I'm a long term DM and I just started a game as a player. I've had the same thing happen to me. I get anxious about back-seat DMing or talking too much and overshadowing the other players.
I'm hoping that as we get more sessions under our belt we'll open up more and things will get more natural. But I really don't feel comfortable throwing myself into character like I do when DMing.
I don't have any advice really, but I understand where you're coming from. You're not alone!
I experience this. As a player, the character I'm playing is my avatar in that world, and I'm invested in that character's survival and success, which can be nerve wracking in some campaigns. But when I'm a DM, the world is mine, and no character in it really represents me, so it doesn't hurt as much when one of them rolls four natural ones in a row.
Not sure if this is the right category for this one? But anyway here it is.
I DM 2 times a week, have run a couple others in the past. I was really nervous for the first session of the campaigns but after that I was calm, even when stuff did go wrong or I had made a large mistake etc.
However as a player, I become incredibly nervous before every session. I think everyones going to cringe at everything I do, that I'll take up too much time, I'll annoy people etc. I am doing some work on myself for where that stems from, but that's a long term thing and not for dndbeyond😅. I was curious if any other DMs experienced this? No problems at all having the "most important" role and acting as multiple NPCs and juggling all these other things, then having to plan,plot and build out of game and you're fine. But as a player become quiet and anxious.
I have the exact same problem... IDK why but after taking the PC role for the first time I found myself struggling slightly....
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Not sure if this is the right category for this one? But anyway here it is.
I DM 2 times a week, have run a couple others in the past. I was really nervous for the first session of the campaigns but after that I was calm, even when stuff did go wrong or I had made a large mistake etc.
However as a player, I become incredibly nervous before every session. I think everyones going to cringe at everything I do, that I'll take up too much time, I'll annoy people etc. I am doing some work on myself for where that stems from, but that's a long term thing and not for dndbeyond😅. I was curious if any other DMs experienced this? No problems at all having the "most important" role and acting as multiple NPCs and juggling all these other things, then having to plan,plot and build out of game and you're fine. But as a player become quiet and anxious.
Unfortunately, I don't have the perspective required any longer, to relate to how that feels. I've been infront of different large groups of people on a weekly basis for a couple of decades and have become numb to many of the aspects of performance anxiety.
But what does help is to relax and trust in yourself and overall to try to relax and enjoy the game.
“Travel is fatal to prejudice, bigotry, and narrow-mindedness, and many of our people need it sorely on these accounts. Broad, wholesome, charitable views of men and things cannot be acquired by vegetating in one little corner of the earth all one's lifetime.” - Mark Twain - Innocents Abroad
I'm a long term DM and I just started a game as a player. I've had the same thing happen to me. I get anxious about back-seat DMing or talking too much and overshadowing the other players.
I'm hoping that as we get more sessions under our belt we'll open up more and things will get more natural. But I really don't feel comfortable throwing myself into character like I do when DMing.
I don't have any advice really, but I understand where you're coming from. You're not alone!
I experience this. As a player, the character I'm playing is my avatar in that world, and I'm invested in that character's survival and success, which can be nerve wracking in some campaigns. But when I'm a DM, the world is mine, and no character in it really represents me, so it doesn't hurt as much when one of them rolls four natural ones in a row.
I'm guessing it's another group of people?
If so that probably has a lot to do with it.
Is the group where you are a player people that you are familiar with, or are they strangers/new friends?
It's normal to be reticent around new people, especially in a hobby that requires a lot of vulnerability.
I have the exact same problem... IDK why but after taking the PC role for the first time I found myself struggling slightly....
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