Not sure if this is the right thread to put this in but I did not see any other place to put it in.
Hello, I am having a problem with one of the players in our group, to give you a little back ground of the situation: the person I am talking about we (will call him Bob) is one of my best friends that I have known for about 35 years, he wants to play D&D and has a lot of fun but does not understand how most people interact with each other in a D&D setting.
We have been playing with the same people now for about 1.5 years now, Bob was the one that got this group going, he start DMing and we have said we will take turns DMing, it was just fine with him DMing (it was his first time) and everything went smoothly, one of the other people is DMing now and it seems like every once in a while if things do not revolve around him or if he feels left out he want to complain that someone else is running his character (he is the only one in the group that feels this way), and this is the second time this has happened, the first time he quit for 3 weeks. When he feels this way he just shuts down for the session and just does the bare minimum of playing (if he needs to role a dice he does that) but does not do any role playing and just kind of sulks in the corner.
Does anyone have any suggestions on how we as a group or I as a friend (I am the one that he is saying I am playing his character) can address this? Any input would be greatly appreciated.
If the rest of the group has the same problem off and on but everyone else likes it when he DM’s and he likes being the DM, make him the permanent DM.
But the problem might be that you’re giving him more advice on what to do than he feels comfortable with too. So if that’s the issue try to offer him fewer suggestions out of character and role play more.
Just ask him to be normal and relax? Sounds like he has some self-centerdness and just needs to lighten-up. Maybe ask him to consider how his character wants to interact and not how he wants to interact, then interact with everyone else based on how his character is supposed to be?
Like "is your character self-centered? or charitable and extrovertive? Ok...do that".
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Read the first chapters. Feel free to critique. Will link the next chapters at the end of the first. Two stories running so far.
Not sure if this is the right thread to put this in but I did not see any other place to put it in.
Hello, I am having a problem with one of the players in our group, to give you a little back ground of the situation: the person I am talking about we (will call him Bob) is one of my best friends that I have known for about 35 years, he wants to play D&D and has a lot of fun but does not understand how most people interact with each other in a D&D setting.
We have been playing with the same people now for about 1.5 years now, Bob was the one that got this group going, he start DMing and we have said we will take turns DMing, it was just fine with him DMing (it was his first time) and everything went smoothly, one of the other people is DMing now and it seems like every once in a while if things do not revolve around him or if he feels left out he want to complain that someone else is running his character (he is the only one in the group that feels this way), and this is the second time this has happened, the first time he quit for 3 weeks. When he feels this way he just shuts down for the session and just does the bare minimum of playing (if he needs to role a dice he does that) but does not do any role playing and just kind of sulks in the corner.
Does anyone have any suggestions on how we as a group or I as a friend (I am the one that he is saying I am playing his character) can address this? Any input would be greatly appreciated.
If the rest of the group has the same problem off and on but everyone else likes it when he DM’s and he likes being the DM, make him the permanent DM.
But the problem might be that you’re giving him more advice on what to do than he feels comfortable with too. So if that’s the issue try to offer him fewer suggestions out of character and role play more.
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Just ask him to be normal and relax? Sounds like he has some self-centerdness and just needs to lighten-up. Maybe ask him to consider how his character wants to interact and not how he wants to interact, then interact with everyone else based on how his character is supposed to be?
Like "is your character self-centered? or charitable and extrovertive? Ok...do that".
Read the first chapters. Feel free to critique. Will link the next chapters at the end of the first. Two stories running so far.
Simeon Tor:
https://www.dndbeyond.com/forums/d-d-beyond-general/story-lore/34598-simeon-tor-chapter-1-the-heat-of-battle
The Heart of the Drow:
https://www.dndbeyond.com/forums/d-d-beyond-general/story-lore/36014-heart-of-the-drow-chapter-1
Thanks for the advice, I will try both of them.