I never DM'd with my wife, but have played D&D Wizkids board games with her. The concept of a cooperative board game eluded her and she left my ass in a trap while declaring that she will win now! She sped ahead a couple of tiles and we both ended up burning all of our revive tokens in the first bunch of turns. We did not beat the level....
Not only have I DM/GM/ST or what have you for my wife over the decades but some of my best games are solo games where she is the only player. After a bit we find a rhythm and our games become very cooperative. She leads the story almost as often as I do. She cultivates interactions with NPCs that her PCs like organically. It is honestly my favorite way to game now.
I've been a DM, with my wife as a Player, over two campaigns now.
Not only do I not see any problems - but she's been invaluable for getting the "Player perspective" of how the campaign is going.
I don't/won't give any hints to her, any more than I would do any other Player, but I can ask her more detailed questions about how things look to the Party - mostly because we have more time in conversation than I have with any other Player.
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My wife is one of my players. No real issues but she can be one of those who will break away from the game to go do something around the house simply saying just skip my turn or ill go last. I make it work and its not to much of a big deal. Sometimes when the game starts she will not start with the group because she is doing something else or sucking down some coffee because she just woke up. I will say that she can bring some attitude to the table at times as well. Not toward anyone in general but just overall. especially if the game is not going well for her. But thats just how the dice roll. It all gets old but easy to just shrug off because I can say to people that my wife plays D&D. Overall she is actually an engaged player and im not trying to say she just plays when she wants, but she has her moods.
Been DMing for my wife for the last couple of months, had a couple of teething problems but I think that had more to do with her being a new player than with being my wife. It seems to be working really well now, just treat them as you would anyone else, don't give them special attention but don't overcompensate by grinding them into dust or ignoring them either. Sometimes your spouse will be the person who gets the big cool moment in a session and if you don't let it happen because you're worried people will think you're not being fair, then you're not being fair.
I just started DMing for my family. All of them are first time players. Where I’m stubbling is getting her to engage in the rp, but I think it’s her letting the kids have more of a say rather than taking over the story.
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When I'm DMing she isn't my spouse, she is Galifregan of the Fold.
Sir, the possibility of successfully navigating an asteroid field is approximately 3,720 to 1!
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I never DM'd with my wife, but have played D&D Wizkids board games with her. The concept of a cooperative board game eluded her and she left my ass in a trap while declaring that she will win now! She sped ahead a couple of tiles and we both ended up burning all of our revive tokens in the first bunch of turns. We did not beat the level....
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Not only have I DM/GM/ST or what have you for my wife over the decades but some of my best games are solo games where she is the only player. After a bit we find a rhythm and our games become very cooperative. She leads the story almost as often as I do. She cultivates interactions with NPCs that her PCs like organically. It is honestly my favorite way to game now.
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I've been a DM, with my wife as a Player, over two campaigns now.
Not only do I not see any problems - but she's been invaluable for getting the "Player perspective" of how the campaign is going.
I don't/won't give any hints to her, any more than I would do any other Player, but I can ask her more detailed questions about how things look to the Party - mostly because we have more time in conversation than I have with any other Player.
My DM Philosophy, as summed up by other people: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1rN5w4-azTq3Kbn0Yvk9nfqQhwQ1R5by1/view
Disclaimer: This signature is a badge of membership in the Forum Loudmouth Club. We are all friends. We are not attacking each other. We are engaging in spirited, friendly debate with one another. We may get snarky, but these are not attacks. Thank you for not reporting us.
My wife is one of my players. No real issues but she can be one of those who will break away from the game to go do something around the house simply saying just skip my turn or ill go last. I make it work and its not to much of a big deal. Sometimes when the game starts she will not start with the group because she is doing something else or sucking down some coffee because she just woke up. I will say that she can bring some attitude to the table at times as well. Not toward anyone in general but just overall. especially if the game is not going well for her. But thats just how the dice roll. It all gets old but easy to just shrug off because I can say to people that my wife plays D&D. Overall she is actually an engaged player and im not trying to say she just plays when she wants, but she has her moods.
Been DMing for my wife for the last couple of months, had a couple of teething problems but I think that had more to do with her being a new player than with being my wife. It seems to be working really well now, just treat them as you would anyone else, don't give them special attention but don't overcompensate by grinding them into dust or ignoring them either. Sometimes your spouse will be the person who gets the big cool moment in a session and if you don't let it happen because you're worried people will think you're not being fair, then you're not being fair.
I just started DMing for my family. All of them are first time players. Where I’m stubbling is getting her to engage in the rp, but I think it’s her letting the kids have more of a say rather than taking over the story.