Obligatory! This is a rant because I'm /slightly/ mad a certain types of people in the D&D community. If you have nothing nice to say, please don't reply, I'm already stressed enough as it is. Thanks in advance! <3
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Okay, so here goes. 99% of my characters are LGBTQ+ in some way shape or form, wether trans, ace, gay, bi, etc. Recently, I've noticed that some people (you know who you are) have been bashing me for this, saying things along the lines of "can't some of your characters be 'normal'", or "stop pushing your agenda". To those people: can you stop pushing yours? Its just another layer to the character, and doesn't change how I play them at all. They act based on personality, not sexuality or gender identity, people! Your character being straight or cis isn't their sole characteristic, is it? (If it is, I seriously hope you reconsider how you create different pcs, and build up layered interaction as a whole.) Stop judging other people's characters based on little details. There is much more to a person's creativity than what gender or sexuality they assign to a character. Most of my characters are LGBTQ+ for story purposes, for heck's sake! For many reasons, judging so rudely and harshly is wrong. I'm always open to constructive critique, but being blatantly rude is right out. Being mean doesn't get anyone anywhere, and it doesn't help. The bast thing you can do in that situation would be to rationally explain your thoughts and defend your stance. Accusing and slinging derogatory terms does nothing to help people come to an understanding. Thanks for coming to my TedTalk.
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I'm not arguing with you, I just want to put this out.
More people should play/include LGBTQ+ characters and NPCs in their games, and I do, but I do it practically. 95% of people are straight. Most people aren't LGBTQ+. It makes sense that more people play generic straight PCs, because the majority of people are not in that category of people.
There are still bigots in the community who are homophobes and not accepting people, and you shouldn't judge people because of the sexuality of their characters. But, it just doesn't make sense in my games to have more than 5% of the population be LGBTQ+.
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Your character being straight or cis isn't their sole characteristic, is it?
My character is Bro Toximus, unarmored Barbarian. He loves the ladies and he doesn't care who knows it! His motivation is to impress women so they will hook up with him!
But, it just doesn't make sense in my games to have more than 5% of the population be LGBTQ+.
It's not like they're suggesting they play the whole population of their worlds as LGBTQ+. It's their player characters. And when it comes to PCs I feel that agency is key. Plus this is fantasy, not the real world, so sense is relative.
But, it just doesn't make sense in my games to have more than 5% of the population be LGBTQ+.
It's not like they're suggesting they play the whole population of their worlds as LGBTQ+. It's their player characters. And when it comes to PCs I feel that agency is key. Plus this is fantasy, not the real world, so sense is relative.
Yeah, I'm not saying that they're petitioning for everyone to start playing LGBTQ+ characters. I'm just saying that I don't design PCs or NPCs around their sexual orientation. I know that they're not saying they do that, but I am just saying that when I make an NPC or PC, I roll 1d100. On a 96 or higher, they are LGBTQ+, so I roll 1d6 to see which letter they correspond with. This is how I do it, just to make it realistic.
(Also, it doesn't make much sense to have more than 5% of the population being LGBTQ+. That's 1 in 20 people, if you increase things you suddenly have around 10% of the population being LGBTQ+, which doesn't make much sense with most campaign settings.)
Yes, sense is relative, but I tend to run my games and worlds more "realistically." If 10% of the population or more is gay or otherwise LGBTQ+, that makes some strange questions on how the population even has children (I'm not saying that they can't have children, but it's a complicated in modern days on how they do so, and it doesn't exactly fit with most fantasy worlds.), and how they have a sustainable population, and other questions that would be difficult to fit into world building.
I'm just saying, practically, it doesn't make much sense to have more than 5% of my characters/NPCs LGBTQ+. I'm the DM, I think practically. I make it up to chance whether or not characters are LGBTQ+ or not.
Let the players do whatever they want, but practically, it doesn't make sense from my standpoint to have unusually high amounts of these types of characters and NPCs in my games.
I will certainly never ridicule a player because of what sexuality they choose their character to have, but I won't take things to a point where they stop to make sense.
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But, it just doesn't make sense in my games to have more than 5% of the population be LGBTQ+.
It's not like they're suggesting they play the whole population of their worlds as LGBTQ+. It's their player characters. And when it comes to PCs I feel that agency is key. Plus this is fantasy, not the real world, so sense is relative.
I'm not trying to tell anyone how to play. I know that I always have played and always will play mathematically standard for things like this. Play whatever characters make you have fun, but I don't take it beyond reality in my games personally. If your games are different, go ahead, but I don't use sexuality as a way to develop a character, as a standard that all characters and NPCs have, or how I design my games.
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Looking at this, I'm assuming you're introducing your character as having these traits. Which could look very much as your pushing an agenda. Personally I would find it very strange if I was told somebody's identity as soon as I met them. I see no reason why sexuality would ever be brought up in-game for any reason unless you're pursuing some sort of relationship and in terms of gender, I suppose it makes sense you tell them out-right I suppose.
Honestly, I'd need more info but, people play D&D to escape and maybe other players don't want to deal with real-world social issues while playing. Maybe you need to find a new group of people to play with that share your views as you've clearly been playing with these people long enough for them to recognize your common choices.
This is my point. It doesn't matter what the sexuality of the character, player, DM, or NPC is. It doesn't matter, and isn't how you should define your character or game. It doesn't matter, shouldn't be introduced when the game starts because it doesn't matter, and unless it makes sense to be brought up, I see no reason why people should have to say their character's sexuality.
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Looking at this, I'm assuming you're introducing your character as having these traits. Which could look very much as your pushing an agenda. Personally I would find it very strange if I was told somebody's identity as soon as I met them. I see no reason why sexuality would ever be brought up in-game for any reason unless you're pursuing some sort of relationship and in terms of gender, I suppose it makes sense you tell them out-right I suppose.
Honestly, I'd need more info but, people play D&D to escape and maybe other players don't want to deal with real-world social issues while playing. Maybe you need to find a new group of people to play with that share your views as you've clearly been playing with these people long enough for them to recognize your common choices.
This is my point. It doesn't matter what the sexuality of the character, player, DM, or NPC is. It doesn't matter, and isn't how you should define your character or game. It doesn't matter, shouldn't be introduced when the game starts because it doesn't matter, and unless it makes sense to be brought up, I see no reason why people should have to say their character's sexuality.
Well, if it matters to them, that's fine. It just doesn't make sense in most situations where the party is meeting up with each other for the first time, or they meet a new NPC, and they just yell in their face, "I'M GAY."
That's not realistic, and doesn't need to be mentioned in the first interaction they have with each other. I have nothing against LGBTQ+ people, but I normally dislike it when people create characters around that idea.
If you want to do that, fine by me, but that's just not how reality works, so I don't do that.
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I'm the DM most often. I do roll that when I make DMPCs (which I do use when I have too little players). I do that when I make PCs. I don't leave it to the gods, I leave it to the odds. That's why I roll for stats, most often.
You don't know me. The fact that I do roll when I develop characters on their sexuality doesn't mean that you have to. That's what I prefer. Why should players be exempt from the odds?
That's my take, anyway. It may not be realistic for your character making, but I don't see how that makes my way wrong.
The reason I like D&D is that you roll and go with the numbers you receive. Sexuality is random. You don't choose it. I tend to like making characters, and not limiting or defining them by their sexuality.
I can see this is going to get very messy and WAY off topic so.
LordoftheMemes this part of a message I send out to my players in session 0 for exactly some of the reasons you mention
"There's a couple things I want to mention. I hope it goes without saying that I am completely intolerant of intolerance. I'm an adult, I swear, sometimes I'm raunchy and I'm not very politically correct but bigotry, racism or any other kind of nonsense like that is right out. People are people and if you don't feel that way you can remove yourself from this email with no hard feelings."
So I really don't care how people identify themselves, in the real world people are people and in a fantasy world people sometimes aren't even people so it doesn't make a bit of difference. I would say if you're in a group that makes you feel like you can't express yourself (regardless of what form that expression takes) it's maybe not the right group for you.
Yes, I agree. They should be able to express their character any way they want that is appropriate. I was just saying that I don't build characters or worlds with sexuality in mind. To me, that just doesn't matter. People will judge each other for it, but it is because people suck. It isn't something that has to be said starting a game. There's no "Straight characters/LGBTQ+ characters only" bar. You don't have to say it the first session, the DM should probably know it, but it is a key part of the character, as key as your backstory. When characters meet, they don't immediately tell them their whole life story. They share it over the course of the adventure.
Sexuality isn't something in my mind that a character or game should be built around, because it isn't something that is required to be said upon the characters meeting. Race and Class is pretty essential, and the other party members should know that. Sexuality is not something that needs to be said.
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Okay, so here goes. 99% of my characters are LGBTQ+ in some way shape or form, wether trans, ace, gay, bi, etc. Recently, I've noticed that some people (you know who you are) have been bashing me for this, saying things along the lines of "can't some of your characters be 'normal'", or "stop pushing your agenda". To those people: can you stop pushing yours? Its just another layer to the character, and doesn't change how I play them at all. They act based on personality, not sexuality or gender identity, people! Your character being straight or cis isn't their sole characteristic, is it? (If it is, I seriously hope you reconsider how you create different pcs, and build up layered interaction as a whole.) Stop judging other people's characters based on little details. There is much more to a person's creativity than what gender or sexuality they assign to a character. Most of my characters are LGBTQ+ for story purposes, for heck's sake! For many reasons, judging so rudely and harshly is wrong. I'm always open to constructive critique, but being blatantly rude is right out. Being mean doesn't get anyone anywhere, and it doesn't help. The bast thing you can do in that situation would be to rationally explain your thoughts and defend your stance. Accusing and slinging derogatory terms does nothing to help people come to an understanding. Thanks for coming to my TedTalk.
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Okay, rant over. Have a great day!
As a gay man, I know all too well the desire to see queer representation in media and yes, I play plenty of queer characters in my roleplaying, too. You keep one playing the characters that are fun for you and that make YOU feel fulfilled and damn anyone who would tell you otherwise for such paltry reasons as 'realism.'
As for you, LeviRocks. I don't know if you understand what you're doing here. You may come in here with reasonable ideas of genre purity, but what you don't understand is that you're basically picking on the sensitivities of a minority that is all too used to be being marginalized, ignored, and outright demonized. Don't come in here and try to tell someone who is using the power of imagination and creativity to make their world a better place that the people who would beat them down with their ignorance are in ANY way reasonable. You may think what you're doing is innocent, but it is not.
We play in fantastical worlds not to imitate the things about the real world that make us feel bad, but to either conquer them or to escape from them. If I want a diversity of sexualities in my game and in my characters, then that will be so. I don't think you're wrong for doing things your way, but I WILL fight you if you 'Devil's Advocate' someone when they are already hurting from abuse in their lives.
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How often does the sexuality of your NPCs actually end up being relevant?
Basically never, unless the characters want to learn more about them. It isn't important to the plot, which NPCs are often there to do. The fact that the blacksmith is gay isn't as important as the fact that they saw a mind flayer kidnap their neighbor's llama (or whatever quest they have to give). If the characters want to get to know them more, sure, they'll learn this, but it isn't how they're introduced, or how any characters are introduced by me in my games.
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Obligatory! This is a rant because I'm /slightly/ mad a certain types of people in the D&D community. If you have nothing nice to say, please don't reply, I'm already stressed enough as it is. Thanks in advance! <3
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Okay, so here goes. 99% of my characters are LGBTQ+ in some way shape or form, wether trans, ace, gay, bi, etc. Recently, I've noticed that some people (you know who you are) have been bashing me for this, saying things along the lines of "can't some of your characters be 'normal'", or "stop pushing your agenda". To those people: can you stop pushing yours? Its just another layer to the character, and doesn't change how I play them at all. They act based on personality, not sexuality or gender identity, people! Your character being straight or cis isn't their sole characteristic, is it? (If it is, I seriously hope you reconsider how you create different pcs, and build up layered interaction as a whole.) Stop judging other people's characters based on little details. There is much more to a person's creativity than what gender or sexuality they assign to a character. Most of my characters are LGBTQ+ for story purposes, for heck's sake! For many reasons, judging so rudely and harshly is wrong. I'm always open to constructive critique, but being blatantly rude is right out. Being mean doesn't get anyone anywhere, and it doesn't help. The bast thing you can do in that situation would be to rationally explain your thoughts and defend your stance. Accusing and slinging derogatory terms does nothing to help people come to an understanding. Thanks for coming to my TedTalk.
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Okay, rant over. Have a great day!
As for you, LeviRocks. I don't know if you understand what you're doing here. You may come in here with reasonable ideas of genre purity, but what you don't understand is that you're basically picking on the sensitivities of a minority that is all too used to be being marginalized, ignored, and outright demonized. Don't come in here and try to tell someone who is using the power of imagination and creativity to make their world a better place that the people who would beat them down with their ignorance are in ANY way reasonable. You may think what you're doing is innocent, but it is not.
I'm not trying to ignore or demonize anything. When did I say anything about that? You seriously misunderstood me. I was just saying how I do things in my games. If anything, I'm on your side. It sucks that people are generalized and others are jerks to them because of their sexuality. What did I ever say that was over the line? I'm not trying to hurt anyone, I was just explaining how I as a straight man do things in my games. They mentioned how 99% of their characters are LGBTQ+, and so I explained how I as a DM handle that in my games, and how I do it as a player. I'm not trying to argue with anyone, just explain that my games are designed to take into account the percentages of people that are like this. I haven't argued with the OP, I was just adding on my take on this in D&D.
(I honestly have no idea "what I'm doing". Explain that to me, and I'll stop.)
I was trying to explain the statistics. I'm a numbers guy. I like numbers. I use percentile tables in my games to determine nearly everything about NPCs to build my games. I was just trying to explain that. Sorry if I offended anyone by trying to explain that.
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Looking at this, I'm assuming you're introducing your character as having these traits. Which could look very much as your pushing an agenda.
And yet if someone wrote the exact same thing about their character but removed any references to being transgender or nonbinary and made all their relationships strictly hetero, it would simply be called backstory.
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Obligatory! This is a rant because I'm /slightly/ mad a certain types of people in the D&D community. If you have nothing nice to say, please don't reply, I'm already stressed enough as it is. Thanks in advance! <3
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Okay, so here goes. 99% of my characters are LGBTQ+ in some way shape or form, wether trans, ace, gay, bi, etc. Recently, I've noticed that some people (you know who you are) have been bashing me for this, saying things along the lines of "can't some of your characters be 'normal'", or "stop pushing your agenda". To those people: can you stop pushing yours? Its just another layer to the character, and doesn't change how I play them at all. They act based on personality, not sexuality or gender identity, people! Your character being straight or cis isn't their sole characteristic, is it? (If it is, I seriously hope you reconsider how you create different pcs, and build up layered interaction as a whole.) Stop judging other people's characters based on little details. There is much more to a person's creativity than what gender or sexuality they assign to a character. Most of my characters are LGBTQ+ for story purposes, for heck's sake! For many reasons, judging so rudely and harshly is wrong. I'm always open to constructive critique, but being blatantly rude is right out. Being mean doesn't get anyone anywhere, and it doesn't help. The bast thing you can do in that situation would be to rationally explain your thoughts and defend your stance. Accusing and slinging derogatory terms does nothing to help people come to an understanding. Thanks for coming to my TedTalk.
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Okay, rant over. Have a great day!
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I'm not arguing with you, I just want to put this out.
More people should play/include LGBTQ+ characters and NPCs in their games, and I do, but I do it practically. 95% of people are straight. Most people aren't LGBTQ+. It makes sense that more people play generic straight PCs, because the majority of people are not in that category of people.
There are still bigots in the community who are homophobes and not accepting people, and you shouldn't judge people because of the sexuality of their characters. But, it just doesn't make sense in my games to have more than 5% of the population be LGBTQ+.
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I'm sorry if others have been rude to you because of what you think is fun. That always sucks, and those people need to go to hell.
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My character is Bro Toximus, unarmored Barbarian. He loves the ladies and he doesn't care who knows it! His motivation is to impress women so they will hook up with him!
It's not like they're suggesting they play the whole population of their worlds as LGBTQ+. It's their player characters. And when it comes to PCs I feel that agency is key. Plus this is fantasy, not the real world, so sense is relative.
Yeah, I'm not saying that they're petitioning for everyone to start playing LGBTQ+ characters. I'm just saying that I don't design PCs or NPCs around their sexual orientation. I know that they're not saying they do that, but I am just saying that when I make an NPC or PC, I roll 1d100. On a 96 or higher, they are LGBTQ+, so I roll 1d6 to see which letter they correspond with. This is how I do it, just to make it realistic.
(Also, it doesn't make much sense to have more than 5% of the population being LGBTQ+. That's 1 in 20 people, if you increase things you suddenly have around 10% of the population being LGBTQ+, which doesn't make much sense with most campaign settings.)
Yes, sense is relative, but I tend to run my games and worlds more "realistically." If 10% of the population or more is gay or otherwise LGBTQ+, that makes some strange questions on how the population even has children (I'm not saying that they can't have children, but it's a complicated in modern days on how they do so, and it doesn't exactly fit with most fantasy worlds.), and how they have a sustainable population, and other questions that would be difficult to fit into world building.
I'm just saying, practically, it doesn't make much sense to have more than 5% of my characters/NPCs LGBTQ+. I'm the DM, I think practically. I make it up to chance whether or not characters are LGBTQ+ or not.
Let the players do whatever they want, but practically, it doesn't make sense from my standpoint to have unusually high amounts of these types of characters and NPCs in my games.
I will certainly never ridicule a player because of what sexuality they choose their character to have, but I won't take things to a point where they stop to make sense.
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I'm not trying to tell anyone how to play. I know that I always have played and always will play mathematically standard for things like this. Play whatever characters make you have fun, but I don't take it beyond reality in my games personally. If your games are different, go ahead, but I don't use sexuality as a way to develop a character, as a standard that all characters and NPCs have, or how I design my games.
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This is my point. It doesn't matter what the sexuality of the character, player, DM, or NPC is. It doesn't matter, and isn't how you should define your character or game. It doesn't matter, shouldn't be introduced when the game starts because it doesn't matter, and unless it makes sense to be brought up, I see no reason why people should have to say their character's sexuality.
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It doesn't matter to you, but it matters to them.
Well, if it matters to them, that's fine. It just doesn't make sense in most situations where the party is meeting up with each other for the first time, or they meet a new NPC, and they just yell in their face, "I'M GAY."
That's not realistic, and doesn't need to be mentioned in the first interaction they have with each other. I have nothing against LGBTQ+ people, but I normally dislike it when people create characters around that idea.
If you want to do that, fine by me, but that's just not how reality works, so I don't do that.
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I'm the DM most often. I do roll that when I make DMPCs (which I do use when I have too little players). I do that when I make PCs. I don't leave it to the gods, I leave it to the odds. That's why I roll for stats, most often.
You don't know me. The fact that I do roll when I develop characters on their sexuality doesn't mean that you have to. That's what I prefer. Why should players be exempt from the odds?
That's my take, anyway. It may not be realistic for your character making, but I don't see how that makes my way wrong.
The reason I like D&D is that you roll and go with the numbers you receive. Sexuality is random. You don't choose it. I tend to like making characters, and not limiting or defining them by their sexuality.
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I can see this is going to get very messy and WAY off topic so.
LordoftheMemes this part of a message I send out to my players in session 0 for exactly some of the reasons you mention
"There's a couple things I want to mention. I hope it goes without saying that I am completely intolerant of intolerance. I'm an adult, I swear, sometimes I'm raunchy and I'm not very politically correct but bigotry, racism or any other kind of nonsense like that is right out. People are people and if you don't feel that way you can remove yourself from this email with no hard feelings."
So I really don't care how people identify themselves, in the real world people are people and in a fantasy world people sometimes aren't even people so it doesn't make a bit of difference. I would say if you're in a group that makes you feel like you can't express yourself (regardless of what form that expression takes) it's maybe not the right group for you.
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Yes, I agree. They should be able to express their character any way they want that is appropriate. I was just saying that I don't build characters or worlds with sexuality in mind. To me, that just doesn't matter. People will judge each other for it, but it is because people suck. It isn't something that has to be said starting a game. There's no "Straight characters/LGBTQ+ characters only" bar. You don't have to say it the first session, the DM should probably know it, but it is a key part of the character, as key as your backstory. When characters meet, they don't immediately tell them their whole life story. They share it over the course of the adventure.
Sexuality isn't something in my mind that a character or game should be built around, because it isn't something that is required to be said upon the characters meeting. Race and Class is pretty essential, and the other party members should know that. Sexuality is not something that needs to be said.
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How often does the sexuality of your NPCs actually end up being relevant?
As a gay man, I know all too well the desire to see queer representation in media and yes, I play plenty of queer characters in my roleplaying, too. You keep one playing the characters that are fun for you and that make YOU feel fulfilled and damn anyone who would tell you otherwise for such paltry reasons as 'realism.'
As for you, LeviRocks. I don't know if you understand what you're doing here. You may come in here with reasonable ideas of genre purity, but what you don't understand is that you're basically picking on the sensitivities of a minority that is all too used to be being marginalized, ignored, and outright demonized. Don't come in here and try to tell someone who is using the power of imagination and creativity to make their world a better place that the people who would beat them down with their ignorance are in ANY way reasonable. You may think what you're doing is innocent, but it is not.
We play in fantastical worlds not to imitate the things about the real world that make us feel bad, but to either conquer them or to escape from them. If I want a diversity of sexualities in my game and in my characters, then that will be so. I don't think you're wrong for doing things your way, but I WILL fight you if you 'Devil's Advocate' someone when they are already hurting from abuse in their lives.
Canto alla vita
alla sua bellezza
ad ogni sua ferita
ogni sua carezza!
I sing to life and to its tragic beauty
To pain and to strife, but all that dances through me
The rise and the fall, I've lived through it all!
Basically never, unless the characters want to learn more about them. It isn't important to the plot, which NPCs are often there to do. The fact that the blacksmith is gay isn't as important as the fact that they saw a mind flayer kidnap their neighbor's llama (or whatever quest they have to give). If the characters want to get to know them more, sure, they'll learn this, but it isn't how they're introduced, or how any characters are introduced by me in my games.
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I'm not trying to ignore or demonize anything. When did I say anything about that? You seriously misunderstood me. I was just saying how I do things in my games. If anything, I'm on your side. It sucks that people are generalized and others are jerks to them because of their sexuality. What did I ever say that was over the line? I'm not trying to hurt anyone, I was just explaining how I as a straight man do things in my games. They mentioned how 99% of their characters are LGBTQ+, and so I explained how I as a DM handle that in my games, and how I do it as a player. I'm not trying to argue with anyone, just explain that my games are designed to take into account the percentages of people that are like this. I haven't argued with the OP, I was just adding on my take on this in D&D.
(I honestly have no idea "what I'm doing". Explain that to me, and I'll stop.)
I was trying to explain the statistics. I'm a numbers guy. I like numbers. I use percentile tables in my games to determine nearly everything about NPCs to build my games. I was just trying to explain that. Sorry if I offended anyone by trying to explain that.
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Thank you. Someone agrees with me!
I have nothing against the LGBTQ+ community. It just isn't realistic in my opinion to introduce yourself as such.
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And yet if someone wrote the exact same thing about their character but removed any references to being transgender or nonbinary and made all their relationships strictly hetero, it would simply be called backstory.
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