My character just died today after two years playing with him,just some sessions short of an fight than would be pivotal to his entire character,and it hurts,the DM tried to help but it didnt work out,my dice are shit,and it all happened just in an bad day overall https://19216801****/https://routerlogin.uno/
I dont plan to quit forever,but i dont really feel motivated to play with another character now,maybe i need some time away from the table
My character just died today after two years playing with him,just some sessions short of an fight than would be pivotal to his entire character,and it hurts,the DM tried to help but it didnt work out,my dice are shit,and it all happened just in an bad day overall
I dont plan to quit forever,but i dont really feel motivated to play with another character now,maybe i need some time away from the table
The fact that it affected you as much as it did and the fact that the DM was willing to let it happen are all signs that you have a great DM. Characters do sometimes die when playing D&D, but it would only be sad if you didn't care.
IMO sit back and watch the game for a while without playing. You'll either a) lose interest completely, or b) regain more interest by saying things like "Oh if I were there, I'd have...".
If it's a 2 year campaign, I'd be surprised if the party didn't try to revive you in some way - they must be relatively mid to high level. If you want to turn it into a character moment, you could work with the DM on where your character goes in the afterlife, and have a little RP set up for when you get brought back.
If you want to take a break for other reasons, it's totally understandable. But I'd wager a guess in most groups that when someone dies, you try to bring them back.
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I know what you're thinking: "In that flurry of blows, did he use all his ki points, or save one?" Well, are ya feeling lucky, punk?
My character just died today after two years playing with him,just some sessions short of an fight than would be pivotal to his entire character,and it hurts,the DM tried to help but it didnt work out,my dice are shit,and it all happened just in an bad day overall
I dont plan to quit forever,but i dont really feel motivated to play with another character now,maybe i need some time away from the table
Adventuring is dangerous work.
That said, if an activity isn't bringing you happiness, it is ALWAYS okay to take a pause, This applies to RPGs, dating, miniature painting, golf, pickle ball.... If you aren't doing it to put food on the table, you are always allowed to take a step back.
That said, I concur that for a major campaign, there are ways to return a character from the dead. In my Curse of Strahd game, I actually killed off a character (heroic sacrifice) only to bring him back (almost immediately) as an undead revenant. It's a funny thing when you swear an oath in Ravenloft to protect Ireena Kolyana "for all time".
I would also add... if this is hitting you really "weird", it's also acceptable to seek out tables with lower lethality. I'll be honest, since I got back into regular DND in 2020, I have had 0 permanent character deaths. At no time has a player had to remake their character because of adventuring mishaps. That's the way I like to play and the way the players I look for like to play. There's pros and cons to "the dice are the final word" and that's a whole nother angle to explore. Just saying DND comes in lots of flavors.
My character just died today after two years playing with him,just some sessions short of an fight than would be pivotal to his entire character,and it hurts,the DM tried to help but it didnt work out,my dice are shit,and it all happened just in an bad day overall
I dont plan to quit forever,but i dont really feel motivated to play with another character now,maybe i need some time away from the table
This happens all the time, even outside of TTRPGs. That character you loved from that show you watched or book you read, who died when they shouldn't have. It makes you feel something because those characters, imaginary though they might be, meant something to you. That's great and it is part of the journey. Not every hero makes it until the end. Do what feels right for you but I would encourage you to look at how amazing this game has been for you, that you feel such loss when the PC dies. Take a session off to process that grief, but don't stay away too long because then you deny yourself the chance to love another PC just as much.
OK, I understand deep role playing but you said your character died just short of a pivotal point in their story. So can you not work with your DM to have your character to come back. So you can finish the back story. I find it odd that your saying that's it for the character. But clearly there was more to do with that character. If I was DMing, I would be more then happy to bring your character. Maybe have a little side quests about it. D&D for me is about making a fun game and you sound really sad about losing this character. Can something be worked into the storyline for them to come back?
Unless you really do want a break. Then that's fine.
Your message to me sounds more like you are sad about it. I would chat with your DM and the group. Hopefully they would want your character back too?
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My character just died today after two years playing with him,just some sessions short of an fight than would be pivotal to his entire character,and it hurts,the DM tried to help but it didnt work out,my dice are shit,and it all happened just in an bad day overall https://19216801****/ https://routerlogin.uno/
I dont plan to quit forever,but i dont really feel motivated to play with another character now,maybe i need some time away from the table
The fact that it affected you as much as it did and the fact that the DM was willing to let it happen are all signs that you have a great DM. Characters do sometimes die when playing D&D, but it would only be sad if you didn't care.
IMO sit back and watch the game for a while without playing. You'll either a) lose interest completely, or b) regain more interest by saying things like "Oh if I were there, I'd have...".
If it's a 2 year campaign, I'd be surprised if the party didn't try to revive you in some way - they must be relatively mid to high level. If you want to turn it into a character moment, you could work with the DM on where your character goes in the afterlife, and have a little RP set up for when you get brought back.
If you want to take a break for other reasons, it's totally understandable. But I'd wager a guess in most groups that when someone dies, you try to bring them back.
I know what you're thinking: "In that flurry of blows, did he use all his ki points, or save one?" Well, are ya feeling lucky, punk?
Adventuring is dangerous work.
That said, if an activity isn't bringing you happiness, it is ALWAYS okay to take a pause, This applies to RPGs, dating, miniature painting, golf, pickle ball.... If you aren't doing it to put food on the table, you are always allowed to take a step back.
That said, I concur that for a major campaign, there are ways to return a character from the dead. In my Curse of Strahd game, I actually killed off a character (heroic sacrifice) only to bring him back (almost immediately) as an undead revenant. It's a funny thing when you swear an oath in Ravenloft to protect Ireena Kolyana "for all time".
I would also add... if this is hitting you really "weird", it's also acceptable to seek out tables with lower lethality. I'll be honest, since I got back into regular DND in 2020, I have had 0 permanent character deaths. At no time has a player had to remake their character because of adventuring mishaps. That's the way I like to play and the way the players I look for like to play. There's pros and cons to "the dice are the final word" and that's a whole nother angle to explore. Just saying DND comes in lots of flavors.
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Yes its understandable, what you feel is real and if you think you need some time off, you should listen to yourself and take all the time you need.
This happens all the time, even outside of TTRPGs. That character you loved from that show you watched or book you read, who died when they shouldn't have. It makes you feel something because those characters, imaginary though they might be, meant something to you. That's great and it is part of the journey. Not every hero makes it until the end. Do what feels right for you but I would encourage you to look at how amazing this game has been for you, that you feel such loss when the PC dies. Take a session off to process that grief, but don't stay away too long because then you deny yourself the chance to love another PC just as much.
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OK, I understand deep role playing but you said your character died just short of a pivotal point in their story. So can you not work with your DM to have your character to come back. So you can finish the back story. I find it odd that your saying that's it for the character. But clearly there was more to do with that character. If I was DMing, I would be more then happy to bring your character. Maybe have a little side quests about it. D&D for me is about making a fun game and you sound really sad about losing this character. Can something be worked into the storyline for them to come back?
Unless you really do want a break. Then that's fine.
Your message to me sounds more like you are sad about it. I would chat with your DM and the group. Hopefully they would want your character back too?