It was a little awkward back in high school because adolescence. But now (just shy of 40) I do it about 40% of the time. It isn’t that I set out to play a female, that’s just who the character is.
It depends on how you play it. If your first step is to sexualize the character, that's wrong and the DM should stop it real quick.
Wait, what wrong with playing Jessica Rabbit?
Yeah!?! She’s not bad, she’s just drawn that way. Of course, she’s also the only cartoon character I know of to appear on no less than 2 people’s “gimme lists.” (List of celebs your spouse has permit if you ever get the chance.)
It depends on how you play it. If your first step is to sexualize the character, that's wrong and the DM should stop it real quick.
Wait, what wrong with playing Jessica Rabbit?
Yeah!?! She’s not bad, she’s just drawn that way. Of course, she’s also the only cartoon character I know of to appear on no less than 2 people’s “gimme lists.” (List of celebs your spouse has permit if you ever get the chance.)
Playing an oversexed person in D&D is just not going to go over well. I am embroiled in a battle in another thread about what makes people uncomfortable in D&D. I guarantee you sex is one of those red lines that will have at least one person at the table really squeamish. Unless you are playing D&D in a Community episode.
It depends on how you play it. If your first step is to sexualize the character, that's wrong and the DM should stop it real quick.
Wait, what wrong with playing Jessica Rabbit?
Yeah!?! She’s not bad, she’s just drawn that way. Of course, she’s also the only cartoon character I know of to appear on no less than 2 people’s “gimme lists.” (List of celebs your spouse has permit if you ever get the chance.)
Playing an oversexed person in D&D is just not going to go over well. I am embroiled in a battle in another thread about what makes people uncomfortable in D&D. I guarantee you sex is one of those red lines that will have at least one person at the table really squeamish. Unless you are playing D&D in a Community episode.
Really depends on the group. Most campaigns I would agree with you but seen exceptions
Yeah, I am sure there are exceptions. But few and far between. It takes a really special group to be entirely comfortable with the concept of a Jessica Rabbit, or Holli Would char in the game, though I would be thrilled to play D&D with Kim Basinger.
The biggest problem I have with the concept is the amount of game time that is focused on one player (or players) RP'ing this out. That goes for just about any truly indepth RP'ing. I try to keep my tables small, and one of the reasons is so that every player has an opportunity to RP a bit, and no player feels bored/ left out. But when we jump into the RP world with sex, that can mean some seriously large commitment of time. It is the equivalent of two people at the table having some extended PDA. Typically, the rest of the table is just not into that.
But I digress. If some guy wants to play a girl in the game, why not?
One would hope the goal of any gaming group is to have a good time. Players are free (within guidelines) to pick the race, gender, class, alignment, background and personallity of their character.
There is always a chance that players (or DMs) will take offense at the choices made by another player; whether it be during character creation or during gameplay. It could as easily be the character's name and backstory as it could be their choices during gameplay.
If a player role-playing a character of the opposite gender upsets someone, is it simply the assigned gender or the way the player roleplays that character?
Personal example: I've only gone to a gaming Con once and I decided to try a session at a table. The GM was running 7 Seas and had pre-prepared characters, giving me the role of a woman from the north who had traveled south looking for her wayward husband. Being a college-age man, I really couldn't get into the character's mentality (I'd thought she would be better off moving on) but I did my best to muddle through. The session was about 10 minutes of roleplay in a tavern followed by a short tavern brawl. I would not want to have been forced into that character again; although at that point I had roleplayed both a female cleric in Red Box D&D and a female bard in AD&D 2nd edition in addition to several male characters. My issue was her mentality, not gender.
Personally, I don't mind the gender or the character that much, unless the player makes it weird. That isn't what makes the character, the personality, actions, and RPing is what makes the character.
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It depends on how you play it. If your first step is to sexualize the character, that's wrong and the DM should stop it real quick.
Wait, what wrong with playing Jessica Rabbit?
Yeah!?! She’s not bad, she’s just drawn that way. Of course, she’s also the only cartoon character I know of to appear on no less than 2 people’s “gimme lists.” (List of celebs your spouse has permit if you ever get the chance.)
Playing an oversexed person in D&D is just not going to go over well. I am embroiled in a battle in another thread about what makes people uncomfortable in D&D. I guarantee you sex is one of those red lines that will have at least one person at the table really squeamish. Unless you are playing D&D in a Community episode.
Really depends on the group. Most campaigns I would agree with you but seen exceptions
Yeah, I am sure there are exceptions. But few and far between. It takes a really special group to be entirely comfortable with the concept of a Jessica Rabbit, or Holli Would char in the game, though I would be thrilled to play D&D with Kim Basinger.
The biggest problem I have with the concept is the amount of game time that is focused on one player (or players) RP'ing this out. That goes for just about any truly indepth RP'ing. I try to keep my tables small, and one of the reasons is so that every player has an opportunity to RP a bit, and no player feels bored/ left out. But when we jump into the RP world with sex, that can mean some seriously large commitment of time. It is the equivalent of two people at the table having some extended PDA. Typically, the rest of the table is just not into that.
But I digress. If some guy wants to play a girl in the game, why not?
I’ma put a pin in mister Rilley-not-Parker-but-unbeknownst-to-them-actually-Parker’s point and address them separately. (If you don’t get the reference then you’re not them so feel free to Google it later at your leisure.) So this one is instead for the person who volunteered as aracno-mimeograph’s tag team partner in this match. In the far corner, weighing in with combined statistics of 0 Followers, 1,475 Posts and 635 Thanks: The Heels. *Hiss, boo, jeer.* (I would like to point out that in the genre I am spoofing, being referred to as a “Heel” is not an attack nor a slight of any kind. In fact, without heels there would be no reason for the faces to step foot in the ring, so they are quite literally indispensable to the art form. Not to mention they are often crowd favorites. I mean, Hogan is popular in yellow, but they love him in black. And the more the crowd boos, the more you know they got “over.”)
Which means I’ll be in the near corner teaming up with an occasional forum wrestling partner, and the latest addition to the list of people I sometimes refer to as “DM,” Wyssperia! Weighing in with a combined total of 33 Followers, 19,247 Posts, and 7,846 Thanks: Team Babyface! *Yeah, hooray, cheering.* (Also, without height and weight I used what relevant statistics were available.)
Sorry Ko, no run-ins. That kind of behavior is acceptable for Heels, but Faces gotta wrastle clean ya know.
I got so many rebuttals to those two posts of yours that to list them all would require putting up a wall-o’-text so long even I would be disgusted by it. (And for any yous who may be familiar y’all know I can put up some doozies.) So instead of that, I’ma just cherry pick the best ones. ‘Kay? So here goes:
Why would they have to be “oversexed” at all?!? Have you seen the movie?!? When they “play patty cake,” they literally played Patty Cake… it had a PG rating for crying out loud.
Followup to that last one: So “oversexed” PCs are banned in your games? Not a lot of Bards I take it. (I mean, isn’t that the stereotype after all …?
Isn’t it a fact that all known Humanoids Races/Species/Whatever currently in 5e all reproduce sexually as a matter of biology? I understand that it could offend someone as an element to their D&D, and if someone is uncomfortable with such a game they absolutely should not have to deal with it…. But that’s one heck of a strange argument coming from someone who’s sigline literally states “Facts trump feelings. Facts hurting your feelings is not anyone's problem but your own.” 🤨
Followup to that last one: That’s part what Session 0 is for. Ne? So everyone can discuss what is and is not okay with them, right? That way the DM can do their best to make sure everyone acts like responsible human being of whichever age is appropriate for the people, right? 🤔
You say “few and far between,” I’m willing to bet you have never actually thought to Google “kinky D&D group,” or “D&D munch,” or any other combination of words that combine some reference to the alternative sexual lifestyle comunity + D&D + finding each other. Am I right? Yeah, you don’t have to answer that, I know I’m right. Admittedly, there has been a pandemic which has interfered with anybody meeting up with other likeminded folks in any physical space for, like, a year now. So you likely won’t find anything recent. But pre-Covid…. Nerds are nerds are nerds. There’s often crossover. For example, people in that particular alt-lifestyle comunity always run their equivalent of a session 0 to make exactly sure that nobody is ever forced to encounter anything that they do not wish to for any reason whatsoever. (Those that don’t are new, and that’s one of the first things people teach them.) Anyone who violate the pre-agreed parameters are shunned worse than a lapsed Amish person. Why? Because in D&D it’s just rude, in that comunity it’s legit criminal. That don’t go over too well. So, often, along with the shunning there are things like police reports to be filed against people who break those agreements. So people don’t break those agreements.
Why in goodness name would people stop in the middle of playing D&D to “play patty cake” like that?!? (Unless that was agreed upon during session 0, in which case everyone knew to expect it.) Most people feel awkward speaking in character! But shtupping in character is totally not embarrassing?!? Gimme a break. 🤨
Followup to that last one: Why in goodness name would a DM let people stop in the middle of playing D&D to “play patty cake” like that?!? (Unless that was agreed upon during session 0, in which case everyone knew to expect it.) That’s when the camera pans to the fireplace, there’s a brief moment of musical interlude, and things either pick up 30ish minutes later or the following morning. (Unless there’s a random encounter of course…. 😂)
And finally: If she agrees, you can play D&D with Kim Basinger all you want. I would much rather send an invitation to Kathleen Turner. I have had a crush on her since the second grade. 😍 (I was an early bloomer, what can I say? 🤷♂️) I don’t care that she’s 2 & 1/2 decades older than me. To hear that voice in person, even just once… it would legitimately be a lifelong fantasy achieved. I might never wash my ears again.…. (That would be gross, I would totally wash me ears after that. But I’d be smiling the whole time. 🤤)
If your first step is to sexualize the character, that's wrong and the DM should stop it real quick. I've played women to kind of explore "softer" emotions in a safe space before. It all boils down to original intent, and then are you faithfully giving it an honest go without being this walking trope. If yes, you should be fine. If not, you should stop instantly.
I may regret this, but I have to ask: Who are any of us to tell anyone else that their fun is “wrong” for any reason?!? I’ll promise not to impose my opinions onto your game if you agree to reciprocate the curtesy. Deal? Great, only 7,800,000,000 more people to go then besides me. (You may want to hurry, that number keeps getting higher faster every second.)
If your first step is to sexualize the character, that's wrong and the DM should stop it real quick. I've played women to kind of explore "softer" emotions in a safe space before. It all boils down to original intent, and then are you faithfully giving it an honest go without being this walking trope. If yes, you should be fine. If not, you should stop instantly.
I may regret this, but I have to ask: Who are any of us to tell anyone else that their fun is “wrong” for any reason?!? I’ll promise not to impose my opinions onto your game if you agree to reciprocate the curtesy. Deal? Great, only 7,800,000,000 more people to go then besides me. (You may want to hurry, that number keeps getting higher faster every second.)
I think I'm going to regret this . . . but here we go anyways.
It's not anyone's individual job to determine this. Not even WotC gets to say this. However, society as a whole gets to decide what constitutes "good", "bad", "correct", and "wrong" fun. Currently, society has been largely critical on oversexualized portrayals of women throughout the media, especially calling out situations when it's men who are doing the oversexualization (which is the case over 90% of the time).
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It depends on how you play it. If your first step is to sexualize the character, that's wrong and the DM should stop it real quick.
Wait, what wrong with playing Jessica Rabbit?
Yeah!?! She’s not bad, she’s just drawn that way. Of course, she’s also the only cartoon character I know of to appear on no less than 2 people’s “gimme lists.” (List of celebs your spouse has permit if you ever get the chance.)
Playing an oversexed person in D&D is just not going to go over well. I am embroiled in a battle in another thread about what makes people uncomfortable in D&D. I guarantee you sex is one of those red lines that will have at least one person at the table really squeamish. Unless you are playing D&D in a Community episode.
Whoa hold up. Who said anything about oversexed? She's a well respected married woman.
The thing I'm actually offended by is you thinking it's OK to veto a player's character choice if they want to play a PC that looks like them. "Naw, you can't have your character look like you, you gotta play somebody ugly."
Or if a girl wanted to play a male character that looked like Chris Hemsworth, Denzel Washington, The Rock, Mariano Di Vaio, Jason Momoa, Yang Yang, or Seo In-Guk, you'd say nope you can't do that, choose somebody less attractive because you're a girl playing a boy?
Thus far I haven't played a female character, but that's purely down to the way the characters fell.
I don't see any issue with a characters gender being different to the players gender. I will confess though that I felt a little uncomfortable when a man at the table was playing a woman, and when he was asked anything about her it always came back around to what she looked like, what she was wearing, how drop-dead gorgeous she was and how perfectly formed her body was and on and on until I think everyone at the table felt like they might have been held hostage at the table by the guys intent to roleplay out his repressed sexual curiosity in a game of dungeons and dragons. I noticed that throughout the game, the DM was asking this player what he was doing less and less, and no-one was trying to prevent this. His opening moves were to try and seduce the landlord of the inn. Not once did he give his character any depth, and it kind of reinforced the idea that to that player their female character existed solely to be looked at. It was truly cringy and I felt somewhat embarrassed, like if you thought you were attending a respectable party and then someone comes around collecting your car keys to put in a bowl, or the host walks in wearing a gimp mask and assless chaps, but everyone's too polite to leave because of it.
However, at another game the local giant (almost 7ft, beard, long hair, rocker jacket) was roleplaying as a female character. It didn't impact the game at all, even when he did interact with men & women differently than you might have expected to look at him. Instead of being "oh god here he goes again" it was more of a "oh yeah, he's roleplaying a woman" and that was it. So it can be done properly. I think the key is whether it's done because the character is a woman, or because the player wants to roleplay one. (or vice versa).
If your first step is to sexualize the character, that's wrong and the DM should stop it real quick. I've played women to kind of explore "softer" emotions in a safe space before. It all boils down to original intent, and then are you faithfully giving it an honest go without being this walking trope. If yes, you should be fine. If not, you should stop instantly.
I may regret this, but I have to ask: Who are any of us to tell anyone else that their fun is “wrong” for any reason?!? I’ll promise not to impose my opinions onto your game if you agree to reciprocate the curtesy. Deal? Great, only 7,800,000,000 more people to go then besides me. (You may want to hurry, that number keeps getting higher faster every second.)
I think I'm going to regret this . . . but here we go anyways.
It's not anyone's individual job to determine this. Not even WotC gets to say this. However, society as a whole gets to decide what constitutes "good", "bad", "correct", and "wrong" fun. Currently, society has been largely critical on oversexualized portrayals of women throughout the media, especially calling out situations when it's men who are doing the oversexualization (which is the case over 90% of the time).
Yeah well, for the past 60,000ish years people have actively reaffirmed ther decision that shtupping is is a good thing. We kinda have to, or else there won’t be people. And what’s more, we do it a loottt. You can tell, because when I was around your age I remember the estimated global population as roughly 6,000,000,000ish. Now it's 7,866,320,000+ (Toldja you had better hurry to go impose your personal morals on everyone, that was the number at the time I drew this link on Monday, May 2021, 6:16am EST: https://www.worldometers.info/world-population/ And at that time there were over 100,000 new people born already today, (Heh, now we know the guaranteed minimum number of people who shtupped approximately 9ish months ago…. 😏 ) And I guarantee you that a good number of them were playing a game when they did it. You don't believe me, google the English language translation of “shtupp” and the word “games” Guess what? (Then repeat the process in any sampling of languages from the list of known, living languages used on the internet. Guess what? Then, for giggles, check some dead languages too. Guess what…? 😉)
So if you and your group make that decision for yourselves then I should hope that anyone joining your game should A) Be informed, and B) Abide by standards of conduct you have. If the Scarlet Reboot and their group(s) make that same decision, then I should equally hope they give and receive the same respect too. Ditto for "WRs I & II" too since I genuinely believe that should be the universal minimum standard that everyone should be able to expect regardless of weather or not I like the person. Common Curtesy, basic decency, and a starting minimum of human respect to a stranger until you get to know them well enough to figure out how much you respect the person, if at all.
And make no mistake, I also prefer a PG 13ish rating when adolescents are present, if everyone is at least college age or older they can decide for themselves if they want an R rating or not. But I genuinely also believe there should be zero "X"s in my Table Rating, not one, not two, not three, no 0 "X"s. What's more, it's for mostly all the same reasons the others sited already. Because it's unnecessary, gratuitous, often tasteless, and almost always poorly done. But I'ma not go tell my buddy that his Tiefling isn't allowed to do that thing with her tail that her husband likes and that the husband, played by my buddy's IRL wife, isn't allowed to ask for it anymore either. And if any of your go over there to impose your decisions on their campaign their first reaction will be to laugh in your faces, if you persist they will tell you to eff off. If you insist, they will likely go to their nearest cache of whips and chains for to drive the group of prudish home invaders from their home. Then I'll laugh at you too. And then I'll repeat (again):
No, you and the other people in this thread do not have the right to vote in absenta on behalf of the rest of the 7.9 billion people on this planet to decide what ther maximum leve of intra-party relationships must be because you don't trust them to think for themselves. And if you try to decide for me, the rating of the campaign I am currently DMing will jump from a mild R, to the stuff so messed up they aren't legally even allowed to do in ****. And I'll do it so fast your head'll spin. No, bullies impose themselves on the lives of others, and I'll bow to no bully, not even if it's you my friend. Especially because you're my friend, and a friend wouldn't treat me like that.
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Wait, what wrong with playing Jessica Rabbit?
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I usually base my characters loosely on existing characters from other media, so this comes up pretty often for me. I've never had anyone complain.
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Idk, as long as you don't make it weird i'd say it's okay
It was a little awkward back in high school because adolescence. But now (just shy of 40) I do it about 40% of the time. It isn’t that I set out to play a female, that’s just who the character is.
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Yeah!?! She’s not bad, she’s just drawn that way. Of course, she’s also the only cartoon character I know of to appear on no less than 2 people’s “gimme lists.” (List of celebs your spouse has permit if you ever get the chance.)
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As a straight guy who has a thing for catgirls in general, in games either lewd or not, I... may have a tendency to do this, nya~.
It’s days like this that I wish this site had a downvote option. Thanks for the honesty...I guess.
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Playing an oversexed person in D&D is just not going to go over well. I am embroiled in a battle in another thread about what makes people uncomfortable in D&D. I guarantee you sex is one of those red lines that will have at least one person at the table really squeamish. Unless you are playing D&D in a Community episode.
Yeah, I am sure there are exceptions. But few and far between. It takes a really special group to be entirely comfortable with the concept of a Jessica Rabbit, or Holli Would char in the game, though I would be thrilled to play D&D with Kim Basinger.
The biggest problem I have with the concept is the amount of game time that is focused on one player (or players) RP'ing this out. That goes for just about any truly indepth RP'ing. I try to keep my tables small, and one of the reasons is so that every player has an opportunity to RP a bit, and no player feels bored/ left out. But when we jump into the RP world with sex, that can mean some seriously large commitment of time. It is the equivalent of two people at the table having some extended PDA. Typically, the rest of the table is just not into that.
But I digress. If some guy wants to play a girl in the game, why not?
When you think about it, DMs do this all the time when they play NPCs. It is only weird if you make it weird.
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One would hope the goal of any gaming group is to have a good time. Players are free (within guidelines) to pick the race, gender, class, alignment, background and personallity of their character.
There is always a chance that players (or DMs) will take offense at the choices made by another player; whether it be during character creation or during gameplay. It could as easily be the character's name and backstory as it could be their choices during gameplay.
If a player role-playing a character of the opposite gender upsets someone, is it simply the assigned gender or the way the player roleplays that character?
Personal example: I've only gone to a gaming Con once and I decided to try a session at a table. The GM was running 7 Seas and had pre-prepared characters, giving me the role of a woman from the north who had traveled south looking for her wayward husband. Being a college-age man, I really couldn't get into the character's mentality (I'd thought she would be better off moving on) but I did my best to muddle through. The session was about 10 minutes of roleplay in a tavern followed by a short tavern brawl. I would not want to have been forced into that character again; although at that point I had roleplayed both a female cleric in Red Box D&D and a female bard in AD&D 2nd edition in addition to several male characters. My issue was her mentality, not gender.
Personally, I don't mind the gender or the character that much, unless the player makes it weird. That isn't what makes the character, the personality, actions, and RPing is what makes the character.
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I was gone for a day and you guys went and made this.
I’ma put a pin in mister Rilley-not-Parker-but-unbeknownst-to-them-actually-Parker’s point and address them separately. (If you don’t get the reference then you’re not them so feel free to Google it later at your leisure.) So this one is instead for the person who volunteered as aracno-mimeograph’s tag team partner in this match. In the far corner, weighing in with combined statistics of 0 Followers, 1,475 Posts and 635 Thanks: The Heels. *Hiss, boo, jeer.*
(I would like to point out that in the genre I am spoofing, being referred to as a “Heel” is not an attack nor a slight of any kind. In fact, without heels there would be no reason for the faces to step foot in the ring, so they are quite literally indispensable to the art form. Not to mention they are often crowd favorites. I mean, Hogan is popular in yellow, but they love him in black. And the more the crowd boos, the more you know they got “over.”)
Which means I’ll be in the near corner teaming up with an occasional forum wrestling partner, and the latest addition to the list of people I sometimes refer to as “DM,” Wyssperia! Weighing in with a combined total of 33 Followers, 19,247 Posts, and 7,846 Thanks: Team Babyface! *Yeah, hooray, cheering.*
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Sorry Ko, no run-ins. That kind of behavior is acceptable for Heels, but Faces gotta wrastle clean ya know.
I got so many rebuttals to those two posts of yours that to list them all would require putting up a wall-o’-text so long even I would be disgusted by it. (And for any yous who may be familiar y’all know I can put up some doozies.) So instead of that, I’ma just cherry pick the best ones. ‘Kay? So here goes:
But that’s one heck of a strange argument coming from someone who’s sigline literally states “Facts trump feelings. Facts hurting your feelings is not anyone's problem but your own.” 🤨
For example, people in that particular alt-lifestyle comunity always run their equivalent of a session 0 to make exactly sure that nobody is ever forced to encounter anything that they do not wish to for any reason whatsoever. (Those that don’t are new, and that’s one of the first things people teach them.) Anyone who violate the pre-agreed parameters are shunned worse than a lapsed Amish person. Why? Because in D&D it’s just rude, in that comunity it’s legit criminal. That don’t go over too well. So, often, along with the shunning there are things like police reports to be filed against people who break those agreements. So people don’t break those agreements.
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I think I'm going to regret this . . . but here we go anyways.
It's not anyone's individual job to determine this. Not even WotC gets to say this. However, society as a whole gets to decide what constitutes "good", "bad", "correct", and "wrong" fun. Currently, society has been largely critical on oversexualized portrayals of women throughout the media, especially calling out situations when it's men who are doing the oversexualization (which is the case over 90% of the time).
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Whoa hold up. Who said anything about oversexed? She's a well respected married woman.
The thing I'm actually offended by is you thinking it's OK to veto a player's character choice if they want to play a PC that looks like them. "Naw, you can't have your character look like you, you gotta play somebody ugly."
Or if a girl wanted to play a male character that looked like Chris Hemsworth, Denzel Washington, The Rock, Mariano Di Vaio, Jason Momoa, Yang Yang, or Seo In-Guk, you'd say nope you can't do that, choose somebody less attractive because you're a girl playing a boy?
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Thus far I haven't played a female character, but that's purely down to the way the characters fell.
I don't see any issue with a characters gender being different to the players gender. I will confess though that I felt a little uncomfortable when a man at the table was playing a woman, and when he was asked anything about her it always came back around to what she looked like, what she was wearing, how drop-dead gorgeous she was and how perfectly formed her body was and on and on until I think everyone at the table felt like they might have been held hostage at the table by the guys intent to roleplay out his repressed sexual curiosity in a game of dungeons and dragons. I noticed that throughout the game, the DM was asking this player what he was doing less and less, and no-one was trying to prevent this. His opening moves were to try and seduce the landlord of the inn. Not once did he give his character any depth, and it kind of reinforced the idea that to that player their female character existed solely to be looked at. It was truly cringy and I felt somewhat embarrassed, like if you thought you were attending a respectable party and then someone comes around collecting your car keys to put in a bowl, or the host walks in wearing a gimp mask and assless chaps, but everyone's too polite to leave because of it.
However, at another game the local giant (almost 7ft, beard, long hair, rocker jacket) was roleplaying as a female character. It didn't impact the game at all, even when he did interact with men & women differently than you might have expected to look at him. Instead of being "oh god here he goes again" it was more of a "oh yeah, he's roleplaying a woman" and that was it. So it can be done properly. I think the key is whether it's done because the character is a woman, or because the player wants to roleplay one. (or vice versa).
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Yeah well, for the past 60,000ish years people have actively reaffirmed ther decision that shtupping is is a good thing. We kinda have to, or else there won’t be people. And what’s more, we do it a loottt. You can tell, because when I was around your age I remember the estimated global population as roughly 6,000,000,000ish. Now it's 7,866,320,000+ (Toldja you had better hurry to go impose your personal morals on everyone, that was the number at the time I drew this link on Monday, May 2021, 6:16am EST: https://www.worldometers.info/world-population/ And at that time there were over 100,000 new people born already today, (Heh, now we know the guaranteed minimum number of people who shtupped approximately 9ish months ago…. 😏 ) And I guarantee you that a good number of them were playing a game when they did it. You don't believe me, google the English language translation of “shtupp” and the word “games” Guess what? (Then repeat the process in any sampling of languages from the list of known, living languages used on the internet. Guess what? Then, for giggles, check some dead languages too. Guess what…? 😉)
So if you and your group make that decision for yourselves then I should hope that anyone joining your game should A) Be informed, and B) Abide by standards of conduct you have. If the Scarlet Reboot and their group(s) make that same decision, then I should equally hope they give and receive the same respect too. Ditto for "WRs I & II" too since I genuinely believe that should be the universal minimum standard that everyone should be able to expect regardless of weather or not I like the person. Common Curtesy, basic decency, and a starting minimum of human respect to a stranger until you get to know them well enough to figure out how much you respect the person, if at all.
And make no mistake, I also prefer a PG 13ish rating when adolescents are present, if everyone is at least college age or older they can decide for themselves if they want an R rating or not. But I genuinely also believe there should be zero "X"s in my Table Rating, not one, not two, not three, no 0 "X"s. What's more, it's for mostly all the same reasons the others sited already. Because it's unnecessary, gratuitous, often tasteless, and almost always poorly done. But I'ma not go tell my buddy that his Tiefling isn't allowed to do that thing with her tail that her husband likes and that the husband, played by my buddy's IRL wife, isn't allowed to ask for it anymore either. And if any of your go over there to impose your decisions on their campaign their first reaction will be to laugh in your faces, if you persist they will tell you to eff off. If you insist, they will likely go to their nearest cache of whips and chains for to drive the group of prudish home invaders from their home. Then I'll laugh at you too. And then I'll repeat (again):
No, you and the other people in this thread do not have the right to vote in absenta on behalf of the rest of the 7.9 billion people on this planet to decide what ther maximum leve of intra-party relationships must be because you don't trust them to think for themselves. And if you try to decide for me, the rating of the campaign I am currently DMing will jump from a mild R, to the stuff so messed up they aren't legally even allowed to do in ****. And I'll do it so fast your head'll spin. No, bullies impose themselves on the lives of others, and I'll bow to no bully, not even if it's you my friend. Especially because you're my friend, and a friend wouldn't treat me like that.
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